Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Living With An Alcoholic

So many marriages, families, and friends are ruined or even destroyed when there is an Alcohol Addicted person involved.  I can relate, do to the fact, that I was one that basically contributed to almost ruining everything I had, including my life.

It took me some time until I finally realized that something is going to blow up real soon.  Whether it would be myself or my family or friends.  I saw it coming over the years but, I didn't pay much attention to it.

Spouses, families, and friends tend be afraid of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the addict.  They have to basically walk on egg shells while around the addict due to the fact they are worried that the addict might just blow up or even get violent in some cases.  This is certainly not a way to live for the innocent ones involved.

Also, lets say that your spouse wanted to take a nice ride out in the country or down the shore for example, but, we the addict  have already started our day on the drinking binge.  So, we are about worthless to them and we now have spoiled their day and evening.  Not very fair is it?

Either one way or another it is hard Living With An Alcoholic.  My wife can testify to that, as I'm sure many spouses and families of an Alcoholic can say the same.

The alcoholic does not realize what they are doing, not only to themselves, but all of their loved ones that want them to get help.   I know, because when I was into the drinking thing, I thought nothing about it and basically did not care about anyone elses thoughts either.  But, I must say deep down inside of me, I really did care, but the alcohol demons in me decided to think for me, and control my thoughts, while being under their influence.

When I decided to become Sober, one of the first things that convinced me was, "do I want those rotten Demons inside me to control and love me, or, do I want my loving wife, family and friends to love and care for me?"  Well, we all know what the best choice is.  Those so called demons I call them only care about one thing, and that is to destroy you and everything around you.

If you really want to change your life for the better, then start by looking at what you are doing to the people that you care and love so much, and just take a good look at where your life is headed if you keep up with your addiction. These couple of things might help you to make that decision to find Sobriety in your life.  It certainly did for me.

Always remember that without family and freinds on our side, we will be very lonely drunks in our future.  As time goes by the people that loved us will start to stray further and further away.  And we will only have one thing left, which is our Addiction.

Start by always thinking Positive in everything you do, and with family and friends on your side you will have a head start to your new Sober life.. Go for it, you will never be sorry you did!