Why Do Alcoholics Live In Denial

If you are, or know someone that is an alcoholic, answer me this.  "Why do alcoholics live in denial?  Can you answer that question?

I bet I can answer this question because I was one of those people that had an addiction to alcohol and lived in denial every single day of my drinking days.  Those days are long gone now, Thank God.

No matter what anyone told me, I thought that what they said was completely crazy and out of order.  I would think and say to them, "you are out of your mind and don't know what you are talking about."  I can handle my alcohol just fine, and as far as drinking everyday, who cares, I am not hurting anyone!"

Man was I wrong with that statement.  I never knew I was so addicted to alcohol and certainly didn't realize I was hurting so many people that loved and cared for me. The alcohol ran my life and told me what to do and say.  I was completely blinded to the outside world and never thought I was hurting anyone, but myself and my health.

Alcohol made me feel as if I would never get sick from it, and thank God that never happened, but if I were to continue drinking and going down that destructive path of life, sooner or later it would of got me, as it will get every alcoholic one way or another in the end.  Whether it be sickness, or a horrible accident caused by over drinking and abusing alcohol and for the worst part, drinking and driving accidents.  With drinking and driving as we all know, we are not only putting your life in danger, but you would be putting innocent lives in danger as well.

The alcoholic just can't accept the fact that they have a real alcohol problem.  They think that their life is just fine and they are not bothering anyone.  Well, I have to say, your life is not fine and you are bothering many of people by your addiction to alcohol.  You can't see it because you are living in denial and blinded by your own addiction.  I can say this, because what I am stating here was me three years ago until I finally saw the light and stopped drinking alcohol.\

The alcoholic thinks they are living a normal life, because many of their friends are also alcoholics and share the same interest which is drinking alcohol.  The drink and carry on, having a great old time and when the booze starts to flow they are all the smartest in the subject they are talking about.  Does any of this sound familiar to you at all?

What I did, and what you should think about seriously is to look at your life as you are living it at that moment and think to yourself where you will be in a year or two from that moment.  Look around you carefully and take notice of the people that are in your life and that love and care for you, such as your spouse and children.

Think real hard if it is worth having an addiction to alcohol and abusing alcohol everyday or be apart of the family that care for you so much.  The choice really isn't that hard to figure out.  It took me years to be able to look past my addiction to alcohol and see the world around me as I was sober.  You can't look at things in the right way having alcohol in your system.  Take a break for a day and really look into your life and what is all around your.  The vision will be clear and it just might give you a wake up call to turn your life around and start enjoying life being sober.  Sobriety is a wonderful thing if you just give it a chance!

One other important thing to mention once you get out of denial and what to live a life of sobriety is, "YOU NEED TO THINK AND ACT WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE!  

By having a positive attitude in your quest to living a clean and sober life, you will see the denial start to just go away just as it did for me over three years ago.  Once I admitted I had problem with alcohol, and it was out of control, I got out of the denial I lived in for so long and I wanted my life back the way it was before alcohol took over.
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You too can do the exact same thing if you have it in your heart and soul to live a better life for yourself, and for your families and friends, you will give them a better life just by being around you sober. 

THINK ABOUT IT, AND GET OUT OF THE DENIAL YOU ARE LIVING IN.  MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND JUST DO IT ONCE AND FOR ALL. ONCE YOU HAVE TASTED SOBRIETY, EACH DAY WILL GET BETTER AND BETTER AND YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE RIGHT BEFORE YOUR EYES.

GRANTED, GETTING AND STAYING SOBER WILL NOT BE EASY, BUT NOTHING IS EASY IN LIFE WHEN SOMETHING GOOD WILL COME OUT OF IT!!

Alcoholism In A Family

It is a wonderful thing to have a great family life with each person loving and caring for each other, but when you have alcoholism in a family it can be a horrible life for all involved.   No one wants to live where there is constant pressure and worry of what the alcoholic may do next.

Is the alcoholic a Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde in your family?  Do you still love them the same when drunk verses sober?  Can the alcoholic in your family see that they are causing harm not only to them self, but the entire family that loves and cares for he/she?

When you have an alcoholic in a family many people tend to walk on egg shells while being around the person that is addicted to alcohol. Some people are scared to death that they might say something wrong when around the alcoholic.  We have to watch every word said for the fear of upsetting the alcoholic and he/she may just may go from sociable to unbearable within minutes, just by saying one thing wrong or saying something that the alcoholic doesn't want to hear.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE EFFECTS ALCOHOLISM HAS ON YOUR CHILDREN

What do you think our children are thinking when seeing their parent or parents drinking alcohol each and everyday?  What kind of role model are we to these innocent children?  Why do the alcoholics only seem to think of them self and not what the are showing and teaching these children?

By are children seeing the alcoholic drinking alcohol each day, they will in their later years think drinking alcohol is okay to do because after all, my parents did it everyday when I was young and still do to this day.  I have heard those words so many times in my life, and to think I was one of those alcoholics that did drink everyday in front of my own innocent children.

Thinking back over two years ago when I finally stopped drinking alcohol and got out of the denial in lived in for so long, I feel a shamed and embarrassed of the addiction I had all through the young years of my children growing up and watching daddy drink alcohol each and everyday.

I always wondered, and still do to this day what was going through their minds as young children.  Did they think it was okay to drink, just because they did look up to me and I was their father?  I guess being they didn't know any better they just went along and excepted the way I was being an alcoholic in their family.

Man, I wish so bad I could turn back the hands of time and live those young years of my children clean and sober.  Every alcoholic probably thinks the same way, but the addiction had got us and we were helpless to our demons.  The demons ran our lives the way they wanted us to live being addicted to their fuel, which is the alcohol.

I write these articles as many other people that were addicted to alcohol have in hopes to help those now addicted and need and want to get clean and sober.  Many ex-drinkers have websites or blogs to help those in need of help to surrender to their addiction to alcohol.

When someone wants help to get sober and doesn't know where to turn they head to the computer and Google, alcohol addiction, sobriety, alcohol, quit drinking alcohol and so many other keywords in hopes that one website will help them get sober once and for all. 

As for myself, I did the exact thing when I wanted to get clean and sober and find my sobriety, so I search the web and found my savior and the big reason I am sober today.  The website was called Spiritual River and I have to tell you between what I had learned by the articles in that site and my pure determination and my positive attitude I was able to get sober and remain sober and I have to say, staying sober is the biggest challenge of all, but I you have in you and the willingness and desire to stay sober then you will stay sober no matter what life throws at you each day.

So the big thing here is, if you are a person that has alcoholism in your family then be supportive to the alcoholic and offer the help they need, but never enable them, only assist them in their quest to hopefully get clean and sober.

Assist Not Enable An Alcoholic

When there is alcoholism in the family or just someone you may know and love, we think by giving the alcoholic things they may ask for such as money to support their addiction and saying it's Okay by us to drink is helping them, and in fact we are helping them destroy themselves.

Assist not enable an alcoholic is what we should be doing.  Assist them in their need to get help.  Give them the love and support to get better and surrender to their addiction.

Support them in every way possible, but never enable them with their addiction.  Don't let them know it is okay by what they are doing.  Try to explain to the alcoholic that they are slowing killing them self and possibly on the verge of losing their family and friends if you see it with your own eyes, because the alcoholic can not see these things, for they are blinded by their addiction, just as I was two years ago.

So many people that are addicted to alcohol live in their own little world of denial and really can't understand why people harass them with their alcoholism problem.  We all try to make the alcoholic understand what they are doing is not good at all, but they just don't want to listen, nor did I. 

I thought everyone was crazy to even think I had a addiction to alcohol.  Now that I am clean and sober, I now realize that I was the crazy one and not them.  They did not enable me at all, in fact they tried so hard to assist me in getting help and I just wasn't ready to surrender to my addiction, just as so many alcoholics feel.

No matter what people say or do regarding you quitting drinking alcohol, if you are not ready in your heart to give up and surrender once and for all, then no matter what they say is useless.

So the bottom line is if you truly want to help the alcoholic surrender to their addiction, them help them in the right way by leading them in the right direction towards a clean and sober life.  Don't give up on them.  Sooner or later, hopefully they will see the light at the end of the tunnel and admit they do have an addiction to alcohol and then they will ask for the help they need, but until they are ready, assist them and not enable them.

Alcoholism In A Family - Who Really Suffers?

When a person, like myself, decides to take up a habit of drinking Alcohol, we don't think of the side effects it will have upon others.  We start with a casual drink or two on different occasions.  That's okay for the ones that can handle one or two drinks, and then walk away from the bottle.  But, for some of us, for some reason or another we just crave for more and more.

The one or two casual drinks are just not enough for us.  As we continue to feed our bodies with more Alcohol,  our bodies get used to it and say to us "give me more".  As you feed more alcohol to yourself you don't see the world around you. The world you only see is the make believe world, where everything seems great as long as you are high on your drink.

You are now becoming dependent on the Alcohol, which turns to an Addiction. You think that you are fine and there shouldn't be any problems of what you are doing.  You are basically blinded to the outside world.  Everything now revolves around drinking.  I can say this because I was once blinded to the outside world and saw nothing around me but my drink and never even realized it until I became Clean and  Sober.

Some of us are what you call a working or functional Alcoholic.  You can do all the normal things in life, like going to work, yard work, family functions, and the everyday routines.  That is why I thought I had no problem at all.  I functioned just fine, so I thought.

Alcoholism In A Family can do some real damage to everyone involved..  The people that love you and care about you are on your back burner.  But, the Alcoholic can not see this happening, when it is right in front of their faces.  The families suffer so bad, and the alcoholic is happy as a lark. They try to convince us to slow down or even quit drinking all together.  As we all know, you can not tell someone, or make someone  quit unless they are willing to surrender to their Addiction on their own.

As time passes, with your addiction progressing, you then are wondering what have I done.  I have an Addiction that is now out of control.  So, all the fun times in the beginning are now turning into some bad times in the end.

So, some of us may lose our jobs, our families and friends, and unfortunately some of us may lose our Lives, all due to an Addiction that we could of prevented, only if we had the strength within us to keep this under control, from our beginning casual drink or two.

Always remember that when your drinking down that alcohol, your not only killing your body, but your are killing your relationships, friendships, and the most important the family that loves you so.

So just think about it before you tilt the bottle again, and take a look around you and ask yourself "Who Really Suffers the most"?