Living With A Spouse That Has An Addiction To Alcohol

Are you living with a spouse that has an addiction to alcohol?  If so, what do you do to try and make living with that spouse a bit more easier?

I don't have all the answers, but I can tell you that my wife put up with me drinking alcohol everyday for years.  Sometimes when love is so true and unconditional, spouses seem to just hang in there hoping for a miracle that the person they love will see the light and stop drinking alcohol forever.

In my case, and I am sure millions of people throughout the world, have had the same problem.  They wish so bad that their loved one would stop abusing and drinking alcohol.  They wait and wait hoping they will quit drinking and start living a life of sobriety.

How long should you really wait until you just give up on your spouse surrendering to his/her addiction to alcohol?  I just think it depends on how much you love that person and how determined you are and want that person to see the light and stop drinking alcohol and get back to his/her real self without relying on the crutch of alcohol.

Life is so precious and we the alcoholics don't even realize what we are doing to the people that love and care for us so much.  We are not only killing ourselves, but we are destroying our families and the ones that love us.  Alcohol blinds us so much and runs our lives everyday, we can't see what we are doing to others,a and if by chance we do see it, we don't care because the alcohol tells us different.

WHAT CAN YOU DO TO HELP YOUR LOVED ONE STOP DRINKING ?

• You are helping your spouse by enabling him/her in their addiction to alcohol.
• You have to be strong and be able to say no, I will not give you any money to support your addiction.
• You have to be stern. but not so that you and your spouse begin to fight and argue over the addiction that is ruining your lives.  I have seen, and have been there, when my wife would approach me regarding how much alcohol I drink and that I should really stop.  I would listen as many alcoholics do, until the sober spouse has said so much that the alcoholic gets more upset and starts to drink even more just out of spite.  It is a vicious cycle, day in and day out.  
• You must talk to the alcoholic in a way that you make are making a strong point letting them know how unhappy you are and you want this relationship or marriage to work and not be ruined by the addiction to alcohol they have.
• I have found that talking in a civil manner helps more than screaming and yelling at your spouse.  Be calm, but stern about your concerns of their addiction.  Try to explain to them that they are ruining their health and destroying the love that they once had.
• I know from my experiences of drinking alcohol for years that no matter what a spouse says to the alcoholic, the alcoholic will never stop drinking until he/she is ready to do it on their own and not be forced into sobriety.  
• I had quit drinking a couple of times just to make peace in the household, but over time when I felt that everything had calmed down, I felt save to start drinking again.  I would start out with a beer or two and then BANG I went right back to old ways of pounding them down all night long.  I am sure many alcoholics have done the exact same thing.  To stop for awhile to just make peace.  It will never work, believe me. You have to want sobriety and until then no matter what anyone says or what Rehab. Center you may go in, long term sobriety will never happen until you have it in your heart to stop drinking and stop forever.
• It is really a hard thing to do if you fight it, but if you just look at your life and those around you that love you, sobriety will happen when you are ready and not before.
• Rehab. Centers are wonderful, but you have to stick to it even after being released and not think you can have a drink or two at a party, etc.  You will relapse faster than you can shake a stick, as they say.

**Love yourself and others enough to stop drinking alcohol forever.  Save your life, and save your relationship and marriage.  Don't let alcohol run and ruin your life.

Anyone can stop drinking if you put your mind to it and think with a POSITIVE ATTITUDE that you will get and stay sober.  Believe in yourself and love yourself enough to stop drinking.

Is There A Secret To Long Term Sobriety

Many alcoholics that want to get sober ask the question, "is there a secret to long term sobriety?"  My answer to them from my own experience with drinking alcohol is if you want sobriety to be back into your life and have admitted you are an alcoholic and need help, then you have a great chance of long term sobriety because you are taking a huge step in the right direction.

So many people that quit drinking alcohol do well in the very beginning until something upsets them and they can't handle it and revert back to the bottle thinking drinking may fix what ever problem that has arises. They have done so well in the beginning, but not well enough to stay sober.

There will always be things in our lives that will upset us and things that you think will never be fixed or resolved,, but you can't let those things make you go back to drinking.  You need to stay strong and be firm to your promise to yourself to stay sober no matter what life throws at you.  You need to have a positive attitude and continue to tell yourself nothing in the world will ever make me go back to my old ways of being an alcoholic.

Drinking alcohol will never fix anything in life.  It will only make matters worse in the end.  I always thought by me drinking alcohol any problem I might of had I could figure it out because I always felt that I had great ideas while being drunk and all of those ideas made perfect sense, but that was the booze thinking for me and not my sober mind. 

Alcohol does exactly what it is supposed to do, and that is to mess you up and get you drunk.  It makes you think you are indestructible and most people think they think much clearer and make more sense to them self while being intoxicated.  I'll tell you what, I thought of all those those things while I was drinking and when the next day came and I sobered up, what I thought was a great idea turned out to be the worst idea when thinking about it sober.

So what is the secret of getting sober and staying sober?

Through my experience from drinking to getting and staying sober is all in your mind.  Your mind is a powerful tool and you can train it be be negative or you can train it to be nothing but positive and that's were positivity is needed to stay sober.

By thinking positive thoughts will help you to stay sober.  It helps by continuing to tell yourself that you can and will beat this addiction you have.  Positivity helps you think of all the wonderful things life has to offer being sober and up beat.  It helps you to be happy.

Can you imagine walking around thinking negative saying to yourself, "I will never be able to beat this alcohol addiction I have.  Thinking this way and being negative, you can rest assure that you will remain addicted to something that in the long run will kill you one way or another.

Find out the secret within yourself to help you with long term sobriety.  The secret lies within you and only you can find out what will help you remain clean and sober for the rest of your life.  Always stay and think positive.  I truly believe that by me staying positive and telling myself I will have long term sobriety no matter what it takes help me to achieve my sobriety.

Remember, one step at a time and one day at a time and before you know it, weeks, months and then years will have passed and you will look back being so proud that you have achieved long term sobriety and did it on your own.

How To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone Of Drinking Alcohol

Do you feel comfortable while drinking alcohol?  Do you live each day waiting for that first drink of the day?  Do you think you could survive outside your comfort zone without alcohol in your life?


How to get out of your comfort zone of drinking alcohol depends only on you.  Are you able and willing to make a change in your life and go outside the box and the life of addiction?  Do you feel as if you can surrender to drinking alcohol and live a normal life again?

Yes, this article is full of questions that you must ask yourself if you want to leave that comfort zone that you feel so good living in, and that is living with an addiction to alcohol.

We all get so used to doing the same thing over and over again and forget what it feels like to just live a normal and happy life.  Addictions, no matter it be drugs or alcohol captures you and takes from you.  You may not see it coming because you are very happy in the comfort zone you live and really never want to leave that zone for the fear of what you think may happen.

You are afraid of change and rather just stay where you feel comfortable and never mind anything else in life.  Well my friends, by staying in that comfort zone you are missing out on a whole new life.  You are living with everything the same, day after day and missing out on what life really has to offer.

Drinking alcohol CAN be lots of fun if doing it responsibly and not abusing it, like I did.  Don't get me wrong, I loved to drink and if I could, I would, but that is not possible by no means. 

Many people in the world can have one or two drinks and called it quits for the night and are completely satisfied, and then there are those, like myself, that can't just have one or two drinks.  No, we need more and more until we hit that high that our body needs to be content.  Get drunk, get sick and go to bed, day after day until one day you may see the light and surrender to your addiction as I did and start the recovery process to find your sobriety again.

Don't wait until it's too late and something horrible happens to you or someone else, such as a innocent person or people to decide to quit drinking and abusing alcohol.

Get out of that comfort zone and start living life like it should be lived.  Never be afraid of living a clean and sober life.  Be afraid of what an addiction to alcohol CAN and WILL do to you and your family that is suffering right along with you and crying inside and out for you to see the light and get clean and sober and get out of that comfort zone you have been living in for so long.