So you want to get sober what's next is something every alcoholic thinks of when he/she wants to change their lives.
What is the first step in getting sober and how can I start the recovery process is one of the many questions alcoholics may ask themselves, but many may not know the answer or how to go about it.
I know that one of the most important questions is, "do you really want to get sober or are you being forced into something you don't have in your heart to do?" Are you willing to surrender to your addiction and start a new life of sobriety?
Are you willing to possibly let go of your drinking friends and start to live a normal life without your crutch and friends that may possibly put a damper on you succeeding in getting clean and sober?
So you ask. "Whats Next?" You have taken your first step by admitting you have a problem with alcohol and want help and now it is time to pick your starting sobriety date in which will be the most important date in your life, and for the rest of your lives, as it is for myself. I so look forward to my sobriety date to come each year and look back and say to myself, " I have made it through one more year clean and sober."
What a thrill and a huge achievement in an alcoholics life to have made it through one more year of sobriety.
Many alcoholics think they would never be able to get sober, but once they have made their minds up to at least try getting sober, they may surprise themselves by just how easy it can be to get sober if you really have it in your heart to do so.
Stay focused, stay positive and believe in yourself. By doing these things and keeping a positive attitude in life you will be able to get and stay sober. No matter what happens in your life while in recovery, don't back down to your demons. Never let them back into your life again. They, our demons, will always try to get back into our lives in different ways, but you have to be strong enough to put them away and say the most important word in your life, and that is the word, "NO!"
If you have the willingness, desire and the determination to get clean and sober, then it will indeed happen in your life. Believe and you will achieve is my motto from now on in my life, as it should be yours as well.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
What To Do If You Are Struggling With An Addiction
Many people in our society and in our world are struggling with either a drug or alcohol addiction and can't find a way out. Here are my ideas on what to do if you are struggling with an addiction.
These ideas worked for me two years ago when I quit drinking alcohol and still work to this day. Here we go with the first and most important thing in surrendering to your addiction to drugs or alcohol.
You need and must want to get clean and sober and will do anything it takes to achieve sobriety.
You can not just make believe to others that you are going to stop drinking or using and hide behind your addiction.
You have to be very serious about what you are about to do. This is not a game you are playing.
You are dealing with your life and whether you will live or die because of an avoidable addiction.
Ask for the help you need to get clean and sober, whether it be your family or friends and if
need be, seek Medical help so that these trained Professionals can evaluate your addiction and find what proper steps to take for you to get sober, the healthy and safe way.
Don't be a shamed of your addiction. Tell people that you are an alcoholic or a drug addict and want help to get sober. Don't hide behind the bottle!
Start to prepare yourself for your new life once you have admitted you have a addiction problem and need help. Life is a beautiful thing once you are sober, and your outlook towards life will change so much you will even surprise yourself, as I surprised myself when I took that first step towards sobriety.
If you are struggling with any kind of addiction and want out for good, seek help and never be afraid to ask for the help you need to get clean and sober.
This one question, "to ask for help or can you help me" could be a matter of life or death, so don't delay another second and don't be a shamed to ASK FOR HELP!
These ideas worked for me two years ago when I quit drinking alcohol and still work to this day. Here we go with the first and most important thing in surrendering to your addiction to drugs or alcohol.
You need and must want to get clean and sober and will do anything it takes to achieve sobriety.
You can not just make believe to others that you are going to stop drinking or using and hide behind your addiction.
You have to be very serious about what you are about to do. This is not a game you are playing.
You are dealing with your life and whether you will live or die because of an avoidable addiction.
Ask for the help you need to get clean and sober, whether it be your family or friends and if
need be, seek Medical help so that these trained Professionals can evaluate your addiction and find what proper steps to take for you to get sober, the healthy and safe way.
Don't be a shamed of your addiction. Tell people that you are an alcoholic or a drug addict and want help to get sober. Don't hide behind the bottle!
Start to prepare yourself for your new life once you have admitted you have a addiction problem and need help. Life is a beautiful thing once you are sober, and your outlook towards life will change so much you will even surprise yourself, as I surprised myself when I took that first step towards sobriety.
If you are struggling with any kind of addiction and want out for good, seek help and never be afraid to ask for the help you need to get clean and sober.
This one question, "to ask for help or can you help me" could be a matter of life or death, so don't delay another second and don't be a shamed to ASK FOR HELP!
Monday, November 21, 2011
Living Life Sober And To The Fullest
If you are addicted to drugs or alcohol, you don't know what you're missing out on living life sober and to the fullest.
Living your life sober is such a wonderful thing, speaking for someone such as myself, that was addicted to alcohol for many years, and to live life to the fullest is something many of us do not even try to do or maybe we just don't know how.
I have to say from my own experiences drinking alcohol just how I was letting life slip away and really never even realized what was happening. Being a drug addict or an alcoholic we tend to only have one thing that is more important than anything else, and that is our addiction.
All of us are smart enough to know that we are all here on earth just one time so, you had better make the best of every minute of your life while you are here. Live sober and live your life to the fullest every chance you get, because you never know what tomorrow will bring to you.
I have learned so much about life over the last two years being clean and sober that it is hard to even explain all the wonderful feelings inside I have and all the great things that have happened to me, my wife and my family, and all because I changed my outlook on life. The biggest thing was I finally surrendered to my addiction to alcohol. Those demons will never run and try to ruin my life ever again and this should go for every drug addict or alcoholic. Take a stand in your life and surrender to your inner demons.
I know it sounds easy when I word it that way right, but believe it or not it is very easy only if you truly want to live life sober and live it to the fullest.
If you think you are ready to surrender to your addiction or having any worries of the addiction that captured your life, then do something about it. So many people worry about their health, and I was one of those people. If you are so worried about your health and your life then why is it so hard to quit drinking alcohol or using drugs? I bet you don't have an answer for that question, except that you will say, "well I am addicted to drugs or alcohol and there is now way out of my addiction." Does this sound familiar to you, because it sure does to me.
There is always a way out of an addiction only if you are ready to change your life for the better and surrender to that addiction. Until you are fully ready and finally get out of denial and admit you have a serious problem you are going to be stuck right where you are drinking and using, unfortunately.
We all have the the strength, the power and the brain to figure out anything. The problem is, that so many of us are just happy with our life and the way we are living it now. I think these people are just afraid to change the lives or too lazy to work on the addiction and start a new life clean and sober.
If you have the willingness, the desire and the determination to get clean and sober than you are taking that first step towards finding sobriety.
I can tell you one thing, you maybe afraid of your health declining or your life being shortened by your addiction, BUT never be afraid of sobriety. Being clean and sober is something that will help you live your life fuller in the end, so surrender and go for the life you deserve to have and enjoy the one and only life you have.
Living your life sober is such a wonderful thing, speaking for someone such as myself, that was addicted to alcohol for many years, and to live life to the fullest is something many of us do not even try to do or maybe we just don't know how.
I have to say from my own experiences drinking alcohol just how I was letting life slip away and really never even realized what was happening. Being a drug addict or an alcoholic we tend to only have one thing that is more important than anything else, and that is our addiction.
All of us are smart enough to know that we are all here on earth just one time so, you had better make the best of every minute of your life while you are here. Live sober and live your life to the fullest every chance you get, because you never know what tomorrow will bring to you.
I have learned so much about life over the last two years being clean and sober that it is hard to even explain all the wonderful feelings inside I have and all the great things that have happened to me, my wife and my family, and all because I changed my outlook on life. The biggest thing was I finally surrendered to my addiction to alcohol. Those demons will never run and try to ruin my life ever again and this should go for every drug addict or alcoholic. Take a stand in your life and surrender to your inner demons.
I know it sounds easy when I word it that way right, but believe it or not it is very easy only if you truly want to live life sober and live it to the fullest.
If you think you are ready to surrender to your addiction or having any worries of the addiction that captured your life, then do something about it. So many people worry about their health, and I was one of those people. If you are so worried about your health and your life then why is it so hard to quit drinking alcohol or using drugs? I bet you don't have an answer for that question, except that you will say, "well I am addicted to drugs or alcohol and there is now way out of my addiction." Does this sound familiar to you, because it sure does to me.
There is always a way out of an addiction only if you are ready to change your life for the better and surrender to that addiction. Until you are fully ready and finally get out of denial and admit you have a serious problem you are going to be stuck right where you are drinking and using, unfortunately.
We all have the the strength, the power and the brain to figure out anything. The problem is, that so many of us are just happy with our life and the way we are living it now. I think these people are just afraid to change the lives or too lazy to work on the addiction and start a new life clean and sober.
If you have the willingness, the desire and the determination to get clean and sober than you are taking that first step towards finding sobriety.
I can tell you one thing, you maybe afraid of your health declining or your life being shortened by your addiction, BUT never be afraid of sobriety. Being clean and sober is something that will help you live your life fuller in the end, so surrender and go for the life you deserve to have and enjoy the one and only life you have.
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Enabling The Alcoholic
When there is am alcoholic in your family or any part of your life, many of us tend to feel sorry for them and their addiction to alcohol. When we start to feel sorry for them we begin enabling the alcoholic and sometimes we don't know that we are in fact hurting them and not helping them.
Many of us think we are doing the alcoholic a favor by lending or giving them money to support their addiction, but in fact we are enabling them, and by doing so, they think what they are doing by drinking and abusing alcohol is okay.
I can realize that someone would feel sorry for the alcoholic because there was an alcoholic in my family and one time and it was myself. I would ask he same questions to people,such as,do you have any money so I can get a six pack or can you lend me some money because I spent mine on alcohol.
Better yet, when the alcoholic begins drinking in the afternoon or anytime of the day really and then runs out of alcohol and needs more to continue drinking and getting more drunk they then ask if these people can buy more alcohol for them because they are too drunk to drive and get it them self.
All these things our families and our friends may do in enabling the alcohol, but instead these families and friends have to learn the word "NO" and not enable the alcoholic anymore. Sooner or later the alcoholic may get the hint, although I have known many alcoholics that can get very nasty because what they have asked for as a favor the person or people refuse to do for them.
The main purpose of this article is just to say if there is an alcoholic in your family or in your life, do not enable them and give them what they want. You are only making things worse by doing so. You need to be strong and no how to tell the alcoholic, "No I can not help you kill yourself and I refuse to say it is okay to drink alcohol." If you say no enough times and not enable the alcoholic in their time of need, they will have no choice but to figure it out on their own or simply start to think to them selves, maybe I do have an addiction and I should ask for the help I need to get clean and sober.
This is not to say that the alcoholic will do the above, but it certainly will make it harder for them to get the alcohol they need and when the start to realize they are losing the families and friends slow but sure all because of their addiction they may then see the light and get help.
You are not holding back the alcohol from them just to be a nasty and mean person, you are doing it to save their life and make them realize there is a beautiful life out there for them living it sober. Be supportive and help them get sober, but not enable them to use you or try to take advantage of you as far as helping them in their addiction.
Many of us think we are doing the alcoholic a favor by lending or giving them money to support their addiction, but in fact we are enabling them, and by doing so, they think what they are doing by drinking and abusing alcohol is okay.
I can realize that someone would feel sorry for the alcoholic because there was an alcoholic in my family and one time and it was myself. I would ask he same questions to people,such as,do you have any money so I can get a six pack or can you lend me some money because I spent mine on alcohol.
Better yet, when the alcoholic begins drinking in the afternoon or anytime of the day really and then runs out of alcohol and needs more to continue drinking and getting more drunk they then ask if these people can buy more alcohol for them because they are too drunk to drive and get it them self.
All these things our families and our friends may do in enabling the alcohol, but instead these families and friends have to learn the word "NO" and not enable the alcoholic anymore. Sooner or later the alcoholic may get the hint, although I have known many alcoholics that can get very nasty because what they have asked for as a favor the person or people refuse to do for them.
The main purpose of this article is just to say if there is an alcoholic in your family or in your life, do not enable them and give them what they want. You are only making things worse by doing so. You need to be strong and no how to tell the alcoholic, "No I can not help you kill yourself and I refuse to say it is okay to drink alcohol." If you say no enough times and not enable the alcoholic in their time of need, they will have no choice but to figure it out on their own or simply start to think to them selves, maybe I do have an addiction and I should ask for the help I need to get clean and sober.
This is not to say that the alcoholic will do the above, but it certainly will make it harder for them to get the alcohol they need and when the start to realize they are losing the families and friends slow but sure all because of their addiction they may then see the light and get help.
You are not holding back the alcohol from them just to be a nasty and mean person, you are doing it to save their life and make them realize there is a beautiful life out there for them living it sober. Be supportive and help them get sober, but not enable them to use you or try to take advantage of you as far as helping them in their addiction.
Friday, November 18, 2011
Are You Afraid Of Relapsing: Tips To Help You Stay Sober
One of the biggest fears for a person in recovery is the fear of relapsing, whether is be alcoholism or being addicted to drugs.
When I became clean and sober people would ask me, "are you afraid of relapsing?" My answer was no and I have tips to help you stay sober. I have written many articles on tips that have helped me stay sober. These tips worked wonderful for me and I must say, if you are serious about getting sober and staying sober read what worked for me and took the fear out of me relapsing. They just may help you not to relapse after working so hard to get clean and sober.
THIS IS WHAT WORKED FOR ME TO STAY SOBER:
First off, when I decided to surrender to my addiction and you have decided to do the same, you must tell yourself you will never be able to pick up an alcoholic drink for the rest of your life. If you can accept that strong promise to yourself, then you are on your way to sobriety.
Please don't get me wrong. When I surrendered to my alcohol addiction the first few month and sometime even to this day, I get the urge to drink alcohol, but I continue to remind myself of the promise to myself back when I quit drinking alcohol.
The thoughts that went through my mind were powerful in the respect of just how hard I worked to get to the point of sobriety I was in at that moment the urge came about me to drink, and I must say, by thinking how hard I worked stopped that urge right away.
This goes for anyone that is trying their hardest to stay sober without relapsing. Think of all the hard work and determination you have to stay clean and sober. Just think if you were to have that urge to drink and you figured, what the heck, one drink shouldn't hurt. Once you put that drink to your lips and swallow it, the demons will then be waken and your life may just change by one single sip of a drink. I say these things by my own experiences with drinking alcohol, but some of you may be able to have that one drink and call it quits, BUT I hardly doubt it would work out for those who wish to try their luck at drinking alcohol again.
There will be many things in the rest of your life while in recovery that may upset you or huddles you may to jump, but never let any of these things in life make you back down from your demons and wind up relapsing. You can solve anything being sober. You don't need drugs or alcohol to get through life anymore and always remember that!
Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic sad to say. I know for a fact if I were to take a sip of alcohol I would be doomed and back to drinking alcohol everyday and I am sure many other alcoholic would fit right into the same category as myself, so the best and only thing to do is to NOT PICK UP that drink.
Aways remember, whether you believe it or not, that you can have more fun being sober than being drunk, at least that is what I have learned now being clean and sober. .
If you keep a positive attitude and stay strong to yourself, and most of all, learn the most important word in the world for any person addicted to alcohol or drugs, and that is the "WORD NO."
When I became clean and sober people would ask me, "are you afraid of relapsing?" My answer was no and I have tips to help you stay sober. I have written many articles on tips that have helped me stay sober. These tips worked wonderful for me and I must say, if you are serious about getting sober and staying sober read what worked for me and took the fear out of me relapsing. They just may help you not to relapse after working so hard to get clean and sober.
THIS IS WHAT WORKED FOR ME TO STAY SOBER:
First off, when I decided to surrender to my addiction and you have decided to do the same, you must tell yourself you will never be able to pick up an alcoholic drink for the rest of your life. If you can accept that strong promise to yourself, then you are on your way to sobriety.
Please don't get me wrong. When I surrendered to my alcohol addiction the first few month and sometime even to this day, I get the urge to drink alcohol, but I continue to remind myself of the promise to myself back when I quit drinking alcohol.
The thoughts that went through my mind were powerful in the respect of just how hard I worked to get to the point of sobriety I was in at that moment the urge came about me to drink, and I must say, by thinking how hard I worked stopped that urge right away.
This goes for anyone that is trying their hardest to stay sober without relapsing. Think of all the hard work and determination you have to stay clean and sober. Just think if you were to have that urge to drink and you figured, what the heck, one drink shouldn't hurt. Once you put that drink to your lips and swallow it, the demons will then be waken and your life may just change by one single sip of a drink. I say these things by my own experiences with drinking alcohol, but some of you may be able to have that one drink and call it quits, BUT I hardly doubt it would work out for those who wish to try their luck at drinking alcohol again.
There will be many things in the rest of your life while in recovery that may upset you or huddles you may to jump, but never let any of these things in life make you back down from your demons and wind up relapsing. You can solve anything being sober. You don't need drugs or alcohol to get through life anymore and always remember that!
Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic sad to say. I know for a fact if I were to take a sip of alcohol I would be doomed and back to drinking alcohol everyday and I am sure many other alcoholic would fit right into the same category as myself, so the best and only thing to do is to NOT PICK UP that drink.
Aways remember, whether you believe it or not, that you can have more fun being sober than being drunk, at least that is what I have learned now being clean and sober. .
If you keep a positive attitude and stay strong to yourself, and most of all, learn the most important word in the world for any person addicted to alcohol or drugs, and that is the "WORD NO."
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Quitting Drinking Cold Turkey
So many people in our world suffer from either an alcohol or drug addiction and they have no idea where to start to get sober in a safe and healthy way. I, fortunately never had an addiction to drugs, but made up for it by being addicted to alcohol for many years.
Many people that are addicted to alcohol want to quit drinking and often wonder to them selves if quitting drinking cold turkey would be the answer. In many cases, such as my case, going cold turkey worked for me, but it is not the answer for many other people addicted to drugs or alcohol.
These people may be in danger if they tried to go cold turkey without the proper Medical help and guidance through the process of their detoxification. You really have to see the proper Doctor and let him/her diagnose and examine the extent of you addiction and guide and place you in the proper Rehabilatation Center to get the correct care in a safe way.
If any alcoholic thinks and wants sobriety back into their lives again, I would recomend starting off first by preparing yourself for a lenthy journey and get ready for journey of a life time. This journey will not only save your life, but when all said and done, you can be proud of yourself as I am of myself that you and I have beat our demons on our own.
Don't get me wrong and don't be afraid of sobriety, but I must say when I decided to go cold turkey and quit drinking alcohol once and for all, I was scared to death and the reason was I have lived with my addiction to alcohol for many years, as all alcoholics do, and I didn't know how I would feel or react with the absence of alcohol in my body.
Would I be a happier person? Would I get sick or get the Dts from having no alcohol in my system by just cutting off the supply of alcohol instantly?
These were a few things that went through my mind when I decided to finally surrender to my addiction to alcohol. Believe it or not, those things never happened to me after all the worrying. I was fine as far as the above, but I have to say, I was a bit nervous as the days went by. I did feel fidgety and didn't know what to do with my hands or myself. I keep telling myself hang in there and you will get through this and become sober again.
As the day went by, and weeks to follow, things began to feel better inside my old self and I then realized I have been sober for three weeks and then it became months, and now I have passed my two year mark being clean and sober. I can't believe how fast time went and how great I feel.
I have no desire or the urge to ever drink alcohol again and it will stay like that till the end of my time here on earth. I gave myself a second chance at a clean and healthy life and I have no regrets of tossing my addiction aside to live the clean life. You can do the same thing if you are willing to admit to your addiction to alcohol, and want a better life, as I have experienced.
Stand up to your demons and shut them down in their tracks and you will see just how sobriety will change your life as it did mine.
Many people that are addicted to alcohol want to quit drinking and often wonder to them selves if quitting drinking cold turkey would be the answer. In many cases, such as my case, going cold turkey worked for me, but it is not the answer for many other people addicted to drugs or alcohol.
These people may be in danger if they tried to go cold turkey without the proper Medical help and guidance through the process of their detoxification. You really have to see the proper Doctor and let him/her diagnose and examine the extent of you addiction and guide and place you in the proper Rehabilatation Center to get the correct care in a safe way.
If any alcoholic thinks and wants sobriety back into their lives again, I would recomend starting off first by preparing yourself for a lenthy journey and get ready for journey of a life time. This journey will not only save your life, but when all said and done, you can be proud of yourself as I am of myself that you and I have beat our demons on our own.
Don't get me wrong and don't be afraid of sobriety, but I must say when I decided to go cold turkey and quit drinking alcohol once and for all, I was scared to death and the reason was I have lived with my addiction to alcohol for many years, as all alcoholics do, and I didn't know how I would feel or react with the absence of alcohol in my body.
Would I be a happier person? Would I get sick or get the Dts from having no alcohol in my system by just cutting off the supply of alcohol instantly?
These were a few things that went through my mind when I decided to finally surrender to my addiction to alcohol. Believe it or not, those things never happened to me after all the worrying. I was fine as far as the above, but I have to say, I was a bit nervous as the days went by. I did feel fidgety and didn't know what to do with my hands or myself. I keep telling myself hang in there and you will get through this and become sober again.
As the day went by, and weeks to follow, things began to feel better inside my old self and I then realized I have been sober for three weeks and then it became months, and now I have passed my two year mark being clean and sober. I can't believe how fast time went and how great I feel.
I have no desire or the urge to ever drink alcohol again and it will stay like that till the end of my time here on earth. I gave myself a second chance at a clean and healthy life and I have no regrets of tossing my addiction aside to live the clean life. You can do the same thing if you are willing to admit to your addiction to alcohol, and want a better life, as I have experienced.
Stand up to your demons and shut them down in their tracks and you will see just how sobriety will change your life as it did mine.
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Why Do Alcoholics Lie To Others
Being an alcoholic myself, but now clean and sober for over two years I learned all the tricks of how to hide and lie to others about my drinking. The question is, "why do alcoholics lie to others?"
When a person has become addicted to alcohol, some of them may hide their addiction from others for the reason of embarrassment. I know that after many years of my drinking alcohol I began to get embarrassed to even go outside with a beer in my hand. I knew deep down that what I was doing was wrong, and I say wrong because I would have a beer in my hand pretty much all day.
Don't get me wrong, I love to drink and have nothing against anyone that drinks alcohol, but in my case I carried it too far and didn't know when to stop. I didn't have that luxury of having one or two drinks and call it quits for the day. I had to get enough alcohol to cop that buzz I longed for each day. Now sober and looking back on those days I was really foolish and a very weak person to say the least and never learned to say the words, "enough is enough."
As far as the lies alcoholics tell, they are endless. I knew a few myself, but in the end I (we) are only lying to ourselves. I lived, as many alcoholics live in a world of denial. No matter what anyone tells us we don't believe them or care to listen to their ridiculous remarks on how much we drink.
People would come up to me and ask:
Why do you drink so much?
Haven't you had enough beer?
Do you think you have an addiction problem?
Do you think you are an alcoholic?
Can't you ever go a day without a drink in your hand?
Can't you go anywhere without asking if there will be alcohol?
All these things people would ask me and I am very sure they have asked these same questions to just about every alcoholic that people and family worry about and care for their well being.
After all said and done I still never thought I had a addiction problem at all and just thought these people were rude and didn't know me as they thought they knew me. Man was I dead wrong with thinking that way that's for sure.
Here are some examples of my lies and maybe a few will ring a bell to other alcoholics.
I promise I will slow down on my drinking.
I promise to only drink on weekends and Holidays.
Please don't leave me I will stop drinking alcohol now.
I didn't mean what I said last night, I was drunk.
I only had a couple of beers.
No I didn't stop at the bar on the way home from work.
I promise I will quit drinking alcohol after this weekend.
I will not buy anymore alcohol I promise.
Maybe some of these lies will hit home to a few alcoholics and maybe you will have your own lies that you think you will get away with. Believe me, we are only lying and fooling our self and no one else.
'Get out of denial and stop lying and making excuses for your addiction and your actions and lifestyle. Man up and surrender to your addiction and start to live life like it should be lived and that is clean and sober.
When you surrender and stop the lying it will feel like the world is lifted off your shoulders. I know it felt that way for me once I became clean and sober. No more lies and excuses why I drink and now more hiding behind the bottle. No more feeling embarrassed of your addiction and instead feeling proud as hell of your achievement of finding sobriety and living a new and sober life.
When a person has become addicted to alcohol, some of them may hide their addiction from others for the reason of embarrassment. I know that after many years of my drinking alcohol I began to get embarrassed to even go outside with a beer in my hand. I knew deep down that what I was doing was wrong, and I say wrong because I would have a beer in my hand pretty much all day.
Don't get me wrong, I love to drink and have nothing against anyone that drinks alcohol, but in my case I carried it too far and didn't know when to stop. I didn't have that luxury of having one or two drinks and call it quits for the day. I had to get enough alcohol to cop that buzz I longed for each day. Now sober and looking back on those days I was really foolish and a very weak person to say the least and never learned to say the words, "enough is enough."
As far as the lies alcoholics tell, they are endless. I knew a few myself, but in the end I (we) are only lying to ourselves. I lived, as many alcoholics live in a world of denial. No matter what anyone tells us we don't believe them or care to listen to their ridiculous remarks on how much we drink.
People would come up to me and ask:
Why do you drink so much?
Haven't you had enough beer?
Do you think you have an addiction problem?
Do you think you are an alcoholic?
Can't you ever go a day without a drink in your hand?
Can't you go anywhere without asking if there will be alcohol?
All these things people would ask me and I am very sure they have asked these same questions to just about every alcoholic that people and family worry about and care for their well being.
After all said and done I still never thought I had a addiction problem at all and just thought these people were rude and didn't know me as they thought they knew me. Man was I dead wrong with thinking that way that's for sure.
Here are some examples of my lies and maybe a few will ring a bell to other alcoholics.
I promise I will slow down on my drinking.
I promise to only drink on weekends and Holidays.
Please don't leave me I will stop drinking alcohol now.
I didn't mean what I said last night, I was drunk.
I only had a couple of beers.
No I didn't stop at the bar on the way home from work.
I promise I will quit drinking alcohol after this weekend.
I will not buy anymore alcohol I promise.
Maybe some of these lies will hit home to a few alcoholics and maybe you will have your own lies that you think you will get away with. Believe me, we are only lying and fooling our self and no one else.
'Get out of denial and stop lying and making excuses for your addiction and your actions and lifestyle. Man up and surrender to your addiction and start to live life like it should be lived and that is clean and sober.
When you surrender and stop the lying it will feel like the world is lifted off your shoulders. I know it felt that way for me once I became clean and sober. No more lies and excuses why I drink and now more hiding behind the bottle. No more feeling embarrassed of your addiction and instead feeling proud as hell of your achievement of finding sobriety and living a new and sober life.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Having The Urge To Drink While In Recovery
All of us have had the urge to do something in our life that we know will hurt us in the end, but having the urge to drink while in recovery can be devastating to the reformed alcoholic or the alcoholic that just surrendered to their addiction to alcohol.
When the alcoholic finally admits they have a drinking problem and decides to quit drinking alcohol there will be many urges to drink while starting this long road to recovery. For myself, when I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol there were many times in the beginning and even in today that the urge has come over me to drink alcohol, but I promised myself over two years ago that no matter what happens in my life and what road blocks I come up against I will never pick up a alcohol drink ever again.
HERE ARE A FEW STEPS I LEARNED TO GETTING SOBER AND STAYING SOBER:
1. First you must admit you have a drinking problem and need help to get sober.
2. You need to want to get clean and sober and your heart has to be into it and not just doing
it to make someone in your life happy or to get them off your back with the nagging
to you regarding your addiction and your life style.
3. As hard as it might seem, you need to promise yourself never to drink again and never
break that promise to yourself no matter what happens in your life.
4. You must be and stay strong to yourself and respect yourself enough not to ever drink
' again.
5. You have to be stronger than your addiction.
6. You need to eat and sleep right, eating all the right foods and drink that water to
cleanse your body that you abused for so many years.
7. You need to exercise, run, walk, lift weights or what ever it takes to get your body
back into shape.
8. You need to stay busy, mentally and physically to keep your mind off the booze.
9. You may need to stay away from you past drinking buddies and the bars you used to
visit and drink your nights away.
10. Stay away from all things that would bring temptation to drink alcohol again.
These are just a few things that helped my get and stay sober for over two years now. The longer you stay clean and sober the easier it will be to handle different things that may happen bad in your life.
I can tell you, as I said before, that many things happened to me and my family in those two years, and even though I thought about alcohol and drinking again to fix the problem, (in which it never fixes the problem, it only makes things a thousand times worse) I was strong enough to say NO!
Anyone can do the same thing as I have done, if and only if you want sobriety bad enough in your life, and if you are not positively ready to surrender to your addiction, and what a new life, then it will not work. (YOU HAVE TO WANT SOBRIETY AND HAVE IT IN YOUR HEART TO GET AND STAY CLEAN AND SOBER)
Stay focused and keep that positive attitude, and with the willing and the determination you will indeed achieve sobriety in your life.
When the alcoholic finally admits they have a drinking problem and decides to quit drinking alcohol there will be many urges to drink while starting this long road to recovery. For myself, when I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol there were many times in the beginning and even in today that the urge has come over me to drink alcohol, but I promised myself over two years ago that no matter what happens in my life and what road blocks I come up against I will never pick up a alcohol drink ever again.
HERE ARE A FEW STEPS I LEARNED TO GETTING SOBER AND STAYING SOBER:
1. First you must admit you have a drinking problem and need help to get sober.
2. You need to want to get clean and sober and your heart has to be into it and not just doing
it to make someone in your life happy or to get them off your back with the nagging
to you regarding your addiction and your life style.
3. As hard as it might seem, you need to promise yourself never to drink again and never
break that promise to yourself no matter what happens in your life.
4. You must be and stay strong to yourself and respect yourself enough not to ever drink
' again.
5. You have to be stronger than your addiction.
6. You need to eat and sleep right, eating all the right foods and drink that water to
cleanse your body that you abused for so many years.
7. You need to exercise, run, walk, lift weights or what ever it takes to get your body
back into shape.
8. You need to stay busy, mentally and physically to keep your mind off the booze.
9. You may need to stay away from you past drinking buddies and the bars you used to
visit and drink your nights away.
10. Stay away from all things that would bring temptation to drink alcohol again.
These are just a few things that helped my get and stay sober for over two years now. The longer you stay clean and sober the easier it will be to handle different things that may happen bad in your life.
I can tell you, as I said before, that many things happened to me and my family in those two years, and even though I thought about alcohol and drinking again to fix the problem, (in which it never fixes the problem, it only makes things a thousand times worse) I was strong enough to say NO!
Anyone can do the same thing as I have done, if and only if you want sobriety bad enough in your life, and if you are not positively ready to surrender to your addiction, and what a new life, then it will not work. (YOU HAVE TO WANT SOBRIETY AND HAVE IT IN YOUR HEART TO GET AND STAY CLEAN AND SOBER)
Stay focused and keep that positive attitude, and with the willing and the determination you will indeed achieve sobriety in your life.
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