I asked a question to myself over two years ago and that was, "are you ready to get sober Mark?" When people drink alcohol they tend to change into someone else in the eyes of others, but the person drinking doesn't see just how their mood, personality and actions change when drinking alcohol.
For myself, when I drank, I thought I was perfect and I never did anything that would hinder my actions or hurt someone physically or mentally with what I did or what I said. I found out when I became clean and sober I was dead wrong by what people would tell me as I stood in front of them sober. I was shocked to hear many things and never knew. I was the talk of the town years ago and never knew it.
The question I have for anyone that is addicted to alcohol is, "when will you be ready to get sober and stay sober?"
Will it take something drastic to happen to you or your life? Will it take being on the verge of losing your family and friends all because you are drinking too much and can't stop no matter what happens or what people say to you?
This is something to really think about. You need to put your priorities in order and think to yourself which is more important, your life, your family and friends or the booze?
Make up your mind one way or another whether you want sobriety in your life or just stay on the path of self destruction by drinking alcohol and take the chance of losing your family or possibly losing your own life.
You can get sober, believe me. The only thing you must do to start the process of recovery is to admit you have a problem and surrender to you inner demons once and for all. Once you have surrender and ask for the help you need to get sober, then the process of recovery will begin.
Understand, this will not happen overnight getting back to your old sober life. It took years for you to get addicted to alcohol and it will take time to get used to being sober and having no alcohol in your body, but don't fear, each and everyday sober will get easier and easier, at least it did for me.
Stay focused on getting clean and sober. Stay positive and keep that positive attitude going and continue to tell yourself that you can and will get sober again, and with the strength,
determination and the willingness to get sober, it will indeed happen.
This May Help You In Your Quest To Get Sober.
Friday, November 11, 2011
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Are You Afraid To Get Clean And Sober
What are you afraid of ?
Are you afraid to get clean and sober ?
Are you worried what your drinking partners will say ?
Rest assure, you will be better off then your drinking buddies when you decide to get clean and sober. When the alcoholic has had alcohol in their system for so many years, like myself, it tends to be a huge part of the alcoholics life and they are afraid to do without it, as I was.
What will I feel like being clean and sober? Will I get sick from the absence of alcohol in my body?
These are the questions I asked myself before I decided to quit drinking alcohol.
I was scared to death thinking of all the different things that may happen to me when I became sober, but it wasn't enough for me to back down and stay addicted to alcohol. I was determined to change my life around and live it like it should be lived and not let alcohol run my life for me.
Since I became clean and sober I now realize that sobriety will never hurt you, it's your addiction to alcohol that will kill you in the end and you can take that to the bank.
If you are like I was and need to drink every night, seven days a week for years without a break, than I would seriously think about getting help or just tossing in the towel, because you will never beat your demons and the games they play on you and your body. So, you might as well surrender to them and get sober once and for all. They will win in the end if you keep on the path of self destruction.
I believe I caught it just in time before my whole world fell apart and thank God I did. It has been just over 2 years sober now and I don't miss the drink at all. I have no desire to drink or the urge to drink at all. I am not afraid to be around people that still drink alcohol because I know that I am stronger than my addiction now and I have learned the best word of all and that is to be able to say NO!!
So if you are afraid to get clean and sober, don't be, because it will be the best thing you could ever do in your life. You will feel free once again and not having your addiction run your life wherever you go. You will now be in charge of your own life again.
Are you afraid to get clean and sober ?
Are you worried what your drinking partners will say ?
Rest assure, you will be better off then your drinking buddies when you decide to get clean and sober. When the alcoholic has had alcohol in their system for so many years, like myself, it tends to be a huge part of the alcoholics life and they are afraid to do without it, as I was.
What will I feel like being clean and sober? Will I get sick from the absence of alcohol in my body?
These are the questions I asked myself before I decided to quit drinking alcohol.
I was scared to death thinking of all the different things that may happen to me when I became sober, but it wasn't enough for me to back down and stay addicted to alcohol. I was determined to change my life around and live it like it should be lived and not let alcohol run my life for me.
Since I became clean and sober I now realize that sobriety will never hurt you, it's your addiction to alcohol that will kill you in the end and you can take that to the bank.
If you are like I was and need to drink every night, seven days a week for years without a break, than I would seriously think about getting help or just tossing in the towel, because you will never beat your demons and the games they play on you and your body. So, you might as well surrender to them and get sober once and for all. They will win in the end if you keep on the path of self destruction.
I believe I caught it just in time before my whole world fell apart and thank God I did. It has been just over 2 years sober now and I don't miss the drink at all. I have no desire to drink or the urge to drink at all. I am not afraid to be around people that still drink alcohol because I know that I am stronger than my addiction now and I have learned the best word of all and that is to be able to say NO!!
So if you are afraid to get clean and sober, don't be, because it will be the best thing you could ever do in your life. You will feel free once again and not having your addiction run your life wherever you go. You will now be in charge of your own life again.
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Are You Living In Denial With Your Addiction
There are so many people that are addicted to alcohol, but they think there is nothing wrong with them. They think what they are doing by abusing alcohol is not a problem, but they have no idea what they are putting themselves and others that love them through.
The big question to the alcoholic is, "are you living in denial with your addiction?" I know now being that I am sober, that I certainly lived in denial for many years. I said the same thing. I am not doing anything wrong and I am not hurting a soul so why is everyone saying I have an addiction to alcohol? They were my famous sayings while so blinded by my addiction.
I believe the word denial is, "the absence of acceptance." The alcoholic is not willing to accept they have a drinking problem, no matter what anyone tells them or even what they see when looking into a mirror. They truly can see through their own eyes that they are slowly, but surely killing them self. The old saying is that, "pictures or mirrors don't lie" and I can testify to that by what I saw in myself as I slowing was declining in health and looks.
Living in denial with your addiction is something that you the alcoholic can only change. Hopefully the alcoholic will realize that they have a problem with drinking before it is too late. For some people that are addicted may never see the light and get out of their denial and for others they may catch it in enough time to change their life and live it clean and sober for the rest of their time here on earth. As for myself, it took many years to see the light and to get out of the denial I lived in for so long. I now know that sobriety is a wonderful thing and I only wished I would have realized it much earlier in life, but as they say, "better late than never."
Once you have realized you are an alcoholic and need help, and admit it to yourself and everyone else, than getting clean and sober is going to enter your life, because you have surrendered and want to get help and want sobriety back into your life.
As hard as it might seem, getting clean and sober is possible for anyone addicted to alcohol or even using drugs. You may say, "yes, easier said than done," but I have to tell you, I did it and never really thought I could until I put my mind to it and got out of the denial I lived in for so long. Once you realize you have a real problem then it should be no problem admitting you live in denial and you want to do something about it by surrendering to your demons.
If you want a quality life and to be healthy again stand up to your demons and surrender to your addiction. Get out of denial and take action to change your life for the good. Ask for the help you need to get better and never hide behind your addiction because those you are hiding from know the real story, but you may think they don't. You would be surprised just how many people are talking about you without you even knowing. I call say this because once I got clean and sober is when I found out the true feelings people thought about me.
Give sobriety a second chance and you will be surprised of just how great your life will be living life sober.
The big question to the alcoholic is, "are you living in denial with your addiction?" I know now being that I am sober, that I certainly lived in denial for many years. I said the same thing. I am not doing anything wrong and I am not hurting a soul so why is everyone saying I have an addiction to alcohol? They were my famous sayings while so blinded by my addiction.
I believe the word denial is, "the absence of acceptance." The alcoholic is not willing to accept they have a drinking problem, no matter what anyone tells them or even what they see when looking into a mirror. They truly can see through their own eyes that they are slowly, but surely killing them self. The old saying is that, "pictures or mirrors don't lie" and I can testify to that by what I saw in myself as I slowing was declining in health and looks.
Living in denial with your addiction is something that you the alcoholic can only change. Hopefully the alcoholic will realize that they have a problem with drinking before it is too late. For some people that are addicted may never see the light and get out of their denial and for others they may catch it in enough time to change their life and live it clean and sober for the rest of their time here on earth. As for myself, it took many years to see the light and to get out of the denial I lived in for so long. I now know that sobriety is a wonderful thing and I only wished I would have realized it much earlier in life, but as they say, "better late than never."
Once you have realized you are an alcoholic and need help, and admit it to yourself and everyone else, than getting clean and sober is going to enter your life, because you have surrendered and want to get help and want sobriety back into your life.
As hard as it might seem, getting clean and sober is possible for anyone addicted to alcohol or even using drugs. You may say, "yes, easier said than done," but I have to tell you, I did it and never really thought I could until I put my mind to it and got out of the denial I lived in for so long. Once you realize you have a real problem then it should be no problem admitting you live in denial and you want to do something about it by surrendering to your demons.
If you want a quality life and to be healthy again stand up to your demons and surrender to your addiction. Get out of denial and take action to change your life for the good. Ask for the help you need to get better and never hide behind your addiction because those you are hiding from know the real story, but you may think they don't. You would be surprised just how many people are talking about you without you even knowing. I call say this because once I got clean and sober is when I found out the true feelings people thought about me.
Give sobriety a second chance and you will be surprised of just how great your life will be living life sober.
Monday, November 7, 2011
How To Overcome An Addiction To Alcohol
For so many people that have an addiction, it is hard to tell them how to overcome an addiction to alcohol. Those that are fortunate enough to not have this problem don't understand just how hard it is to surrender to something that is a huge part of ones life, meaning the alcoholic has lived with their addiction for so many years it's like a part of them. They need it everyday of their lives to make it through their day.
In order to surrender to their addiction to alcohol, they will have to be willing to give in to their demons and quit drinking alcohol once and for all. This is a scary thought to the alcoholic because they are afraid of how they might feel with the absence of alcohol in their bodies.
I can testify to this statement, because when I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol I was scared to death of the way I might feel without alcohol in my body. I knew I would have some reactions and would feel like crap without the alcohol in my body, but I made my mind up to quit drinking and there was nothing that was going to stop me from reaching sobriety and long term sobriety to boot.
To be able to overcome anything or any problem in life is certainly a challenge to say the least, but if you are willing to make that change in your life you will do anything to achieve what you have set out to do, and in my case, and every alcoholic's case, getting clean and sober is the our challenge in life and once we conquered that we will feel at peace that our demons have been overcome and all of us (the alcoholics) should be so very proud of what they have accomplished in achieving our sobriety.
I just want to try and tell those that are addicted to alcohol to never give up hope on yourself for sobriety is in your future, only if you want it bad enough, as I did. Continue to keep a positive attitude and keep telling yourself that you can and will get clean and sober.
To overcome anything in life takes hard work, determination and the willingness to walk away from your demons and live life sober.
OVERCOME YOUR ADDICTION NOW!
In order to surrender to their addiction to alcohol, they will have to be willing to give in to their demons and quit drinking alcohol once and for all. This is a scary thought to the alcoholic because they are afraid of how they might feel with the absence of alcohol in their bodies.
I can testify to this statement, because when I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol I was scared to death of the way I might feel without alcohol in my body. I knew I would have some reactions and would feel like crap without the alcohol in my body, but I made my mind up to quit drinking and there was nothing that was going to stop me from reaching sobriety and long term sobriety to boot.
To be able to overcome anything or any problem in life is certainly a challenge to say the least, but if you are willing to make that change in your life you will do anything to achieve what you have set out to do, and in my case, and every alcoholic's case, getting clean and sober is the our challenge in life and once we conquered that we will feel at peace that our demons have been overcome and all of us (the alcoholics) should be so very proud of what they have accomplished in achieving our sobriety.
I just want to try and tell those that are addicted to alcohol to never give up hope on yourself for sobriety is in your future, only if you want it bad enough, as I did. Continue to keep a positive attitude and keep telling yourself that you can and will get clean and sober.
To overcome anything in life takes hard work, determination and the willingness to walk away from your demons and live life sober.
OVERCOME YOUR ADDICTION NOW!
- Get out of denial and admit you have an addiction to alcohol and need help.
- Stop thinking negative and begin having a positive attitude.
- Tell everyone you are going to stop drinking alcohol.
- Be happy for yourself that you are about to change your life for the good.
- Don't be embarrassed of your addiction to alcohol.
- Believe in yourself and love yourself enough to get clean and sober.
- Stay clear of your past drinking buddies.
- Stay away from the bars and places you once drank alcohol at.
- Plan your goals and prepare for your sobriety.
- Keep yourself busy physically and mentally at all times.
Sunday, November 6, 2011
How To Live A Simple Yet Happy Life
All of us know that there is nothing simple in life, or is there? I have learned over the past two years that less is more and I will continue to live life thinking and acting that way. I always knew that saying , but never put it into action in my own life.
How to live a simple yet happy life is really up to each and everyone of us, and if that is the lifestyle you wish to live by. For many of people they wish to live high on the hog, as they say, but living this way and knowing you may not be able to afford this type of lifestyle, could very well put you in a financial situation that maybe very difficult to get out of. I know this because a time in my life I was in that same boat and was drowning in debt.
I wanted things and bought things that I thought I could afford, but knew deep down that I couldn't. This never stopped me from getting what I wanted. The banks make it so easy to get loans as long as you were willing to pay the high interest rates in which I didn't care about because I wanted what I wanted and never thought of the consequences to pay the loans back.
At that time I also had one other problem and that was, I was addicted to alcohol in which made me make poor decisions and made me think irrational.
When you make poor decisions in life they will indeed catch up to you and make your life very miserable because those thoughts and decisions you made before. These poor decisions need to be dealt with and corrected in order to be happy again and get your life back on track.
After I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol I started to think better and make better decisions in my life and one of those decisions were to get out of debt and live a happy life again and not worry about where the money was going to come from to pay for all those stupid purchases I did years before.
Once I got clean and sober I was then able to start to plan this huge change in my life, with of course, the help of my wife that stuck by my side through all the ups and downs in our marriage all do to my addiction. I praise her for standing by my side through these tough times.
Now it was up to me to make things better. The way they should of been all those years in the past.
IDEAS FOR YOU TO LIVE A SIMPLE LIFE
How to live a simple yet happy life is really up to each and everyone of us, and if that is the lifestyle you wish to live by. For many of people they wish to live high on the hog, as they say, but living this way and knowing you may not be able to afford this type of lifestyle, could very well put you in a financial situation that maybe very difficult to get out of. I know this because a time in my life I was in that same boat and was drowning in debt.
I wanted things and bought things that I thought I could afford, but knew deep down that I couldn't. This never stopped me from getting what I wanted. The banks make it so easy to get loans as long as you were willing to pay the high interest rates in which I didn't care about because I wanted what I wanted and never thought of the consequences to pay the loans back.
At that time I also had one other problem and that was, I was addicted to alcohol in which made me make poor decisions and made me think irrational.
When you make poor decisions in life they will indeed catch up to you and make your life very miserable because those thoughts and decisions you made before. These poor decisions need to be dealt with and corrected in order to be happy again and get your life back on track.
After I surrendered to my addiction to alcohol I started to think better and make better decisions in my life and one of those decisions were to get out of debt and live a happy life again and not worry about where the money was going to come from to pay for all those stupid purchases I did years before.
Once I got clean and sober I was then able to start to plan this huge change in my life, with of course, the help of my wife that stuck by my side through all the ups and downs in our marriage all do to my addiction. I praise her for standing by my side through these tough times.
Now it was up to me to make things better. The way they should of been all those years in the past.
IDEAS FOR YOU TO LIVE A SIMPLE LIFE
- Remember that less is more is most cases, although many people may argue with that statement. It is my thoughts and the way I now live my life, and it has worked out perfect.
- Get rid of all the things you really don't need and start cleaning and throwing away.
- Think if you can do without different things to make life simpler.
- Start paying down extra on your bills to get them paid in full sooner.
- As far as transportation, do you really need that expensive car or truck? I bought a car cash, because after all I only need it to get from point A to point B.
- Think of things while grocery shopping that really are not necessary to buy.
- All these things I mentioned save money and when you save money by cutting down you can live more simple (and don't need to break your back working for the rest of your life to pay those bills for the fun and the prestige for things I really didn't need to be happy in my life.)
- Many people reading may think I'm nuts, BUT I have done all of this and I am a stone throw away from being debt free, and that is a wonderful feeling. So call me nuts, but I have no financial worries anymore. I live simple and I am happier than I have ever been. I now realize that material things mean nothing, although they are is a sign of prestige for many, but not me anymore.
- As I said in other articles, I sold my home and downsized big time to a manufactured home in a 55+ community minutes from the Ocean with the Bay right down the street. It was my life long dream to live by the sea and with my addiction to alcohol and the way I lived in the past it would never be possible to have what I have now and the best part is, everything is paid in full and now I can relax and enjoy my life with no more worries of paying or having things I really never needed, just to impress others.
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Alcoholism Is a Choice
We as individual people get to choose what we want out of life , but some of us choose the wrong direction in our lives. As far as drinking alcohol and abusing it, I would say that alcoholism is a choice.
I chose to drink alcohol like many of us do and no one forced me into drinking, I did it all on my own. I was the one that chose to self destruct myself and almost ruin my life and my family. I chose to drink and I paid the consequences in the end.
I was fortunate enough that my alcohol addiction did not make me ill enough to be hospitalize, but as far as everything else, it just started to fall to pieces a little at a time until I basically hit rock bottom. I buried our lives in debt and found it very hard to get out.
No one made me do anything. I was the only person that listened to my alcohol demons that took over my life and body. I blame no one, but myself.
Now for the big thing, to be able to get out of something I put myself into, and that was my addiction to alcohol. It was my choice to drink alcohol, (as it is yours and everyone else) that has become addicted to a substance that can and will ruin your life in time, if not drank responsibly.
I chose alcohol over my family and my own health and life and now it was time to surrender to my addiction no matter what it took to get and stay clean and sober.
If you are one of the ones that became addicted to alcohol and alcoholism has taken over your life, I have to say never give up on yourself. If you want to be clean and sober then start taking action to change your life around and live it like it should be lived, and that is sober and happy.
If you want to be sober than the first step is to admit you are an alcoholic and you want and need help to get sober. Ask for the help you need and never be embarrassed of your addiction, because what is inside you, your demons, have simply taken over your life and the only way to get rid of them once and for all is to surrender too them and start living a clean and sober life.
I thought is would be so hard to surrender to my demons, but believe it or not, it really wasn't that bad. I have been clean and sober now two years. I had it in my mind from the very beginning that I would achieve sobriety no matter what it took, and nothing or anyone would stand in my way of getting clean and sober. Once you have it in your mind like I did, and you are serious about quitting drinking alcohol, you will conquer your addiction.
You have to have the determination, the willingness and a strong desire to get clean and sober and with these things and keeping a positive attitude you will indeed find sobriety as I did.
I was your choice to drink alcohol and it is your choice to get get clean and sober. The bottom line is, THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND NO ONE ELSE."
I chose to drink alcohol like many of us do and no one forced me into drinking, I did it all on my own. I was the one that chose to self destruct myself and almost ruin my life and my family. I chose to drink and I paid the consequences in the end.
I was fortunate enough that my alcohol addiction did not make me ill enough to be hospitalize, but as far as everything else, it just started to fall to pieces a little at a time until I basically hit rock bottom. I buried our lives in debt and found it very hard to get out.
No one made me do anything. I was the only person that listened to my alcohol demons that took over my life and body. I blame no one, but myself.
Now for the big thing, to be able to get out of something I put myself into, and that was my addiction to alcohol. It was my choice to drink alcohol, (as it is yours and everyone else) that has become addicted to a substance that can and will ruin your life in time, if not drank responsibly.
I chose alcohol over my family and my own health and life and now it was time to surrender to my addiction no matter what it took to get and stay clean and sober.
If you are one of the ones that became addicted to alcohol and alcoholism has taken over your life, I have to say never give up on yourself. If you want to be clean and sober then start taking action to change your life around and live it like it should be lived, and that is sober and happy.
If you want to be sober than the first step is to admit you are an alcoholic and you want and need help to get sober. Ask for the help you need and never be embarrassed of your addiction, because what is inside you, your demons, have simply taken over your life and the only way to get rid of them once and for all is to surrender too them and start living a clean and sober life.
I thought is would be so hard to surrender to my demons, but believe it or not, it really wasn't that bad. I have been clean and sober now two years. I had it in my mind from the very beginning that I would achieve sobriety no matter what it took, and nothing or anyone would stand in my way of getting clean and sober. Once you have it in your mind like I did, and you are serious about quitting drinking alcohol, you will conquer your addiction.
You have to have the determination, the willingness and a strong desire to get clean and sober and with these things and keeping a positive attitude you will indeed find sobriety as I did.
I was your choice to drink alcohol and it is your choice to get get clean and sober. The bottom line is, THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND NO ONE ELSE."
Thursday, November 3, 2011
How To Retire By Living Low Key
Everyone in the world would love to have the best of everything in life, and some people may achieve that, and then there are those that struggle throughout their entire lives.
I am going to tell you what I have come up with. I call it my Master Plan. I will tell you my logic and my life on "how to retire by living low key."
I always had rich taste my entire life, but knew what I wanted in my life was too difficult to achieve with what I had to work with, such as lack of education and the lack of knowledge to being rich. I raise my hat to all those that have achieved success in their lives and wish them all the best and more to come for them. As far as my life and wanting to retire, I needed to come up with a plan that would able me to retire early in life and to be able to enjoy my life while still being healthy.
I first had to get rid of something that had been in my life for many years and that was my addiction to alcohol. Once I surrendered to my addiction, now two years sober, I started to think of what I could do to be able to live a simple yet happy life.
My first thing, and the biggest thing of all was to downsize my home and get rid of that huge mortgage payment I was making for the next 20 some years. My dream in life was to always live by the sea, and where I was brought up as child during the summers each year. I knew that living on the water, whether it be the Ocean or the Bay was way out of my reach, so I needed to think what I could do to get very close to those two bodies of water without spending a fortune, which I didn't have anyway. My wife came up with an idea to look into mobile home parks in the Shore areas and see what they were like. Most of them were 55 + community which was great because when we started looking I was only 6 months from the age of 55. We found a beautiful place less than a mile from the open bay and about 6-8 minutes from the ocean.
Now the question was, "would we be happy in a home much smaller and living in a mobile home
community?" The place that we found was a modular home (double wide) just like a rancher, but needed lots of work to get it in living order. We purchased it and paid cash and totally re-modeled
it from the inside and out. Now we have a brand new home that was paid in full. The only bill we
would then have regarding the home would be our utilities and HOA fees of $455.00 per month, which included, Taxes, water, sewer, trash, snow removal, pool and clubhouse.
Secondly, I needed to get all the rest of our bills together and start paying them off one at a time.
I cut up all the credit cards, because now everything was going to be paid in cash with no more credit.
I only buy what I need, with nothing extra.
I cut down on many things that really was not necessary in my everyday living.
I needed to do this in order to live life simple and have my dream home by the sea. If you are willing to give to get, like I was, your life can be so much easier if you take that chance. Sure, I was very nervous and worried if everything would come out as I planned, but as of right now, I am writing at my shore home with no mortgage and bills that are getting paid in full one at a time, until I have no bills at all except my living expenses.
Anyone can do it like I did. You need to have the guts to take that chance, and in my case it worked out just fine and I am happy and living like the rich with no bills and no worries anymore.
I am going to tell you what I have come up with. I call it my Master Plan. I will tell you my logic and my life on "how to retire by living low key."
I always had rich taste my entire life, but knew what I wanted in my life was too difficult to achieve with what I had to work with, such as lack of education and the lack of knowledge to being rich. I raise my hat to all those that have achieved success in their lives and wish them all the best and more to come for them. As far as my life and wanting to retire, I needed to come up with a plan that would able me to retire early in life and to be able to enjoy my life while still being healthy.
I first had to get rid of something that had been in my life for many years and that was my addiction to alcohol. Once I surrendered to my addiction, now two years sober, I started to think of what I could do to be able to live a simple yet happy life.
My first thing, and the biggest thing of all was to downsize my home and get rid of that huge mortgage payment I was making for the next 20 some years. My dream in life was to always live by the sea, and where I was brought up as child during the summers each year. I knew that living on the water, whether it be the Ocean or the Bay was way out of my reach, so I needed to think what I could do to get very close to those two bodies of water without spending a fortune, which I didn't have anyway. My wife came up with an idea to look into mobile home parks in the Shore areas and see what they were like. Most of them were 55 + community which was great because when we started looking I was only 6 months from the age of 55. We found a beautiful place less than a mile from the open bay and about 6-8 minutes from the ocean.
Now the question was, "would we be happy in a home much smaller and living in a mobile home
community?" The place that we found was a modular home (double wide) just like a rancher, but needed lots of work to get it in living order. We purchased it and paid cash and totally re-modeled
it from the inside and out. Now we have a brand new home that was paid in full. The only bill we
would then have regarding the home would be our utilities and HOA fees of $455.00 per month, which included, Taxes, water, sewer, trash, snow removal, pool and clubhouse.
Secondly, I needed to get all the rest of our bills together and start paying them off one at a time.
I cut up all the credit cards, because now everything was going to be paid in cash with no more credit.
I only buy what I need, with nothing extra.
I cut down on many things that really was not necessary in my everyday living.
I needed to do this in order to live life simple and have my dream home by the sea. If you are willing to give to get, like I was, your life can be so much easier if you take that chance. Sure, I was very nervous and worried if everything would come out as I planned, but as of right now, I am writing at my shore home with no mortgage and bills that are getting paid in full one at a time, until I have no bills at all except my living expenses.
Anyone can do it like I did. You need to have the guts to take that chance, and in my case it worked out just fine and I am happy and living like the rich with no bills and no worries anymore.
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
How To Live Sober And Be Happy
For many people that are addicted to alcohol, sobriety hasn't been in their lives for some time. This statement also refers to myself. Years have gone by and we the alcoholics forget what it feels like to be clean and sober and to wake up in the morning refreshed and happy. We wake up with a huge headache and some may even go for the bottle first thing in the morning just to take that edge off and get back into the feeling they had when retiring to bed the night before.
Once that first drink of the day is drank, we are right back to that buzzed feeling again. Some of us just have one or two drinks to start our day and then there are those that have the first drink and continue to drink the rest of their day.
Through my experiences drinking alcohol I would like to try and explain how to live sober and be happy. I thought when I drank alcohol I was a happy person, in fact most alcoholics think they are happy, and they very well maybe, but the alcohol can play those head games with you. My demons played many of games with my mind, such as making me think I was happy, but in fact I was very miserable on the inside and may of try to act happy to others, but I knew deep down the true feeling inside.
Living sober and being happy is in any one's life if you truly want to live and feel that way. There are those that simply want to be miserable and unhappy and I truly think they don't know any better. They have lived with their addiction for so many years they just think that it is the way of life.
Once I had decided to surrender to my addiction I then began my new quest of living life simple and began to try to be a bit more happy. By living life simple I have realized that I didn't need all those fancy things in life to be happy. In fact, I am the happiest I have ever been just living simple.
I sold my home and downsized to a smaller one in a 55+ community where the only thing I have to pay for now is my land (HOA) fees. Now sober I can appreciate even the smallest of things and really appreciate living so close to the Ocean and Bay and only minutes away.
You need to learn to live simple and to just enjoy what you have and stop wanting more and more out of life, because in my opinion it only brings misery when you get so far in debt that you have a hard time getting out of it. I now have clean out, thrown out everything I don't need and just live with the simplest things and the things that are nessessary in my everyday living.
Sobriety and liviing life simple is my top priority along with my wife and family. With all said, life is wonderful and stress free to say the least in which helps me to stay sober because I have no more worrries or stress in my life living it simple and being happy doing it.
Anyone, as I said, can do this if you are willing to give up a few things as I did by stopping drinking first and the rest came right into place. If you are willing to change your life for the better than in the long run you will be happier and if you are an alcoholic and decide to get and stay sober you will see just how great life is living it sober, and living it happy.
Once that first drink of the day is drank, we are right back to that buzzed feeling again. Some of us just have one or two drinks to start our day and then there are those that have the first drink and continue to drink the rest of their day.
Through my experiences drinking alcohol I would like to try and explain how to live sober and be happy. I thought when I drank alcohol I was a happy person, in fact most alcoholics think they are happy, and they very well maybe, but the alcohol can play those head games with you. My demons played many of games with my mind, such as making me think I was happy, but in fact I was very miserable on the inside and may of try to act happy to others, but I knew deep down the true feeling inside.
Living sober and being happy is in any one's life if you truly want to live and feel that way. There are those that simply want to be miserable and unhappy and I truly think they don't know any better. They have lived with their addiction for so many years they just think that it is the way of life.
Once I had decided to surrender to my addiction I then began my new quest of living life simple and began to try to be a bit more happy. By living life simple I have realized that I didn't need all those fancy things in life to be happy. In fact, I am the happiest I have ever been just living simple.
I sold my home and downsized to a smaller one in a 55+ community where the only thing I have to pay for now is my land (HOA) fees. Now sober I can appreciate even the smallest of things and really appreciate living so close to the Ocean and Bay and only minutes away.
You need to learn to live simple and to just enjoy what you have and stop wanting more and more out of life, because in my opinion it only brings misery when you get so far in debt that you have a hard time getting out of it. I now have clean out, thrown out everything I don't need and just live with the simplest things and the things that are nessessary in my everyday living.
Sobriety and liviing life simple is my top priority along with my wife and family. With all said, life is wonderful and stress free to say the least in which helps me to stay sober because I have no more worrries or stress in my life living it simple and being happy doing it.
Anyone, as I said, can do this if you are willing to give up a few things as I did by stopping drinking first and the rest came right into place. If you are willing to change your life for the better than in the long run you will be happier and if you are an alcoholic and decide to get and stay sober you will see just how great life is living it sober, and living it happy.
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