All of us have had to face something in our lives that were not to happy to do. Some of us have done something wrong and had to stand up a face the problem. We are very nervous because we don't know what the out come will be.
Many of us such as myself have had those problems and also one other, "Our Demons". In my case, my demons, or should I say my past friends had almost ruined my life, my family and all of the dreams I had.
I could have lost everything all do to Alcohol Addiction, something that could of been avoided only if I had the strength and the willpower to do so.
With many years of drinking under my belt and still feeling in good health I thought that I was indestructible. I was very fortunate that I never had any health problem all those years. But, sooner or later everything catches up with us one way or another.
What caught up with me was that I was on the verge of losing everything I had, including my wife and family all do to selfishness on my part. I knew I was doing wrong in my life but I just could not Give Up Alcohol.
THE CLEAN LIFE IS A BLOG ON: WAYS THAT WILL HELP YOU GET AND STAY SOBER AND LIVE A LIFE OF SOBRIETY. KEEPING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IN LIFE WILL HELP YOU IN SO MANY WAYS AND THAT INCLUDES FINDING YOUR SOBRIETY.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Crucifixion To Resurrection Of An Alcoholic-My Easter Story 2010
People like myself, who have been drinking alcohol for the good part of our lives have many stories that we can tell of our experiences, being good or bad.
I, myself can say that I have had many good experiences when I was young, such as going on boat trips with my dad and friends. But, that was just partying with the guys. I was too young then to even know what the future would bring due to the early years of partying with alcohol.
I never knew what this alcohol could do. I continued to drink everyday leading myself to an unfortunate addiction to the booze. If I were to know the consequences in my future I would have thought twice before the partying began.
No one knows what our future will bring, only time will tell. My time ran out due to being addicted so bad that at times I would only think of the drink and nothing else, even my own family would not matter.
It didn't matter what anyone would say about my drinking, I just didn't care.
I never knew that I was heading down to Rock Bottom, or should I say The Crucifixion of my life. I was self-destructing myself and could not see it until one day, and that day turned my life around forever.
My wife made a statement to me one day that really hit home and made me take a hard look at the life I now lead.
I immediately started to think of how I am going to make this huge change in my life to the better.
The alcohol has ruined my life and held me back on many things I have wanted to do through my life.
With this change I was about to do, I will be able to now focus on My Resurrection of my life, or should I say to be born again with a new Clean and Sober Life.
When I made my mind up to make this change, I started off with the most important thing, which was a Positive Attitude. In doing so, this attitude gave me the Willingness and the Strength to be able to take my final ride down Recovery Road.
I, myself can say that I have had many good experiences when I was young, such as going on boat trips with my dad and friends. But, that was just partying with the guys. I was too young then to even know what the future would bring due to the early years of partying with alcohol.
I never knew what this alcohol could do. I continued to drink everyday leading myself to an unfortunate addiction to the booze. If I were to know the consequences in my future I would have thought twice before the partying began.
No one knows what our future will bring, only time will tell. My time ran out due to being addicted so bad that at times I would only think of the drink and nothing else, even my own family would not matter.
It didn't matter what anyone would say about my drinking, I just didn't care.
I never knew that I was heading down to Rock Bottom, or should I say The Crucifixion of my life. I was self-destructing myself and could not see it until one day, and that day turned my life around forever.
My wife made a statement to me one day that really hit home and made me take a hard look at the life I now lead.
I immediately started to think of how I am going to make this huge change in my life to the better.
The alcohol has ruined my life and held me back on many things I have wanted to do through my life.
With this change I was about to do, I will be able to now focus on My Resurrection of my life, or should I say to be born again with a new Clean and Sober Life.
When I made my mind up to make this change, I started off with the most important thing, which was a Positive Attitude. In doing so, this attitude gave me the Willingness and the Strength to be able to take my final ride down Recovery Road.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Alcoholism In A Family - Who Really Suffers?
When a person, like myself, decides to take up a habit of drinking Alcohol, we don't think of the side effects it will have upon others. We start with a casual drink or two on different occasions. That's okay for the ones that can handle one or two drinks, and then walk away from the bottle. But, for some of us, for some reason or another we just crave for more and more.
The one or two casual drinks are just not enough for us. As we continue to feed our bodies with more Alcohol, our bodies get used to it and say to us "give me more". As you feed more alcohol to yourself you don't see the world around you. The world you only see is the make believe world, where everything seems great as long as you are high on your drink.
You are now becoming dependent on the Alcohol, which turns to an Addiction. You think that you are fine and there shouldn't be any problems of what you are doing. You are basically blinded to the outside world. Everything now revolves around drinking. I can say this because I was once blinded to the outside world and saw nothing around me but my drink and never even realized it until I became Clean and Sober.
Some of us are what you call a working or functional Alcoholic. You can do all the normal things in life, like going to work, yard work, family functions, and the everyday routines. That is why I thought I had no problem at all. I functioned just fine, so I thought.
Alcoholism In A Family can do some real damage to everyone involved.. The people that love you and care about you are on your back burner. But, the Alcoholic can not see this happening, when it is right in front of their faces. The families suffer so bad, and the alcoholic is happy as a lark. They try to convince us to slow down or even quit drinking all together. As we all know, you can not tell someone, or make someone quit unless they are willing to surrender to their Addiction on their own.
As time passes, with your addiction progressing, you then are wondering what have I done. I have an Addiction that is now out of control. So, all the fun times in the beginning are now turning into some bad times in the end.
So, some of us may lose our jobs, our families and friends, and unfortunately some of us may lose our Lives, all due to an Addiction that we could of prevented, only if we had the strength within us to keep this under control, from our beginning casual drink or two.
Always remember that when your drinking down that alcohol, your not only killing your body, but your are killing your relationships, friendships, and the most important the family that loves you so.
So just think about it before you tilt the bottle again, and take a look around you and ask yourself "Who Really Suffers the most"?
The one or two casual drinks are just not enough for us. As we continue to feed our bodies with more Alcohol, our bodies get used to it and say to us "give me more". As you feed more alcohol to yourself you don't see the world around you. The world you only see is the make believe world, where everything seems great as long as you are high on your drink.
You are now becoming dependent on the Alcohol, which turns to an Addiction. You think that you are fine and there shouldn't be any problems of what you are doing. You are basically blinded to the outside world. Everything now revolves around drinking. I can say this because I was once blinded to the outside world and saw nothing around me but my drink and never even realized it until I became Clean and Sober.
Some of us are what you call a working or functional Alcoholic. You can do all the normal things in life, like going to work, yard work, family functions, and the everyday routines. That is why I thought I had no problem at all. I functioned just fine, so I thought.
Alcoholism In A Family can do some real damage to everyone involved.. The people that love you and care about you are on your back burner. But, the Alcoholic can not see this happening, when it is right in front of their faces. The families suffer so bad, and the alcoholic is happy as a lark. They try to convince us to slow down or even quit drinking all together. As we all know, you can not tell someone, or make someone quit unless they are willing to surrender to their Addiction on their own.
As time passes, with your addiction progressing, you then are wondering what have I done. I have an Addiction that is now out of control. So, all the fun times in the beginning are now turning into some bad times in the end.
So, some of us may lose our jobs, our families and friends, and unfortunately some of us may lose our Lives, all due to an Addiction that we could of prevented, only if we had the strength within us to keep this under control, from our beginning casual drink or two.
Always remember that when your drinking down that alcohol, your not only killing your body, but your are killing your relationships, friendships, and the most important the family that loves you so.
So just think about it before you tilt the bottle again, and take a look around you and ask yourself "Who Really Suffers the most"?
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Alcohol Detox - Ways I Survived Doing It
In the world we live in today there are so many stresses and things we all have to endure. Some of us can handle these these stresses on our own, and then some may turn to a different source. Unfortunately, we tend to turn to some sort of habit which most of the time is bad.
When I decided to turn my life around, and take the road to Sobriety, I had to do a lot of preparing, both mind and body. I knew I could not just slow down the drinking, because of my last experience, it didn't work. So the only other thing that I could do is to just go Cold Turkey.
I picked a Sober start date, and I stuck to it. It was hard to say goodbye to my so called second love, or as I always say my Demons. But, I did, and I will never look back at the past. I knew deep down inside that this addiction I have is destroying my family, my dreams and goals, and my Life.
So, I said to myself, how I am going to feel with my Alcohol Detox program that I'm about to start on my own? Will I be able to do this own my own? I answered both questions with a Positive Attitude, saying, Yes I Can and Will achieve this goal of getting Sobriety back into my life.
So, during my Detox of Alcohol, I needed to find things to do to keep my mind and my body busy. One of the first things I started to do was to start writing about my Addiction. Believe it or not, it has helped me so much to be able to express my thoughts and my feelings of my life with Alcohol.
As I continue to write many things pop into my mind. Some are good and then their are the ones that I am ashamed of. Those are, what I have put my family through all the years of drinking. I am not happy nor proud of it by far. I never realized what I was doing due the Alcohol.
One of my Goals is that, I hope that someone in the world will get a chance to read what I have written, and be able to maybe use some of the things I have learned to help them Achieve Sobriety in their lives.
The Detox program that I did on my own, will unfortunately not help someone completely, that really has a far worse addiction then I. But, if they really want to Achieve their Sobriety, then I strongly suggest by first Getting that Positive Attitude going in your life. Without that first you are fighting a losing battle.
Once you Surrender to your Addiction, and grab a hold of that Positive energy you will succeed. You will also have to agree to yourself that you will never be able to pick up a drink again ever in your life. We all know what could happen if you do so, and no one wants a Relapse after working so hard to Achieve their Sobriety.
With a lot of prayers, and to put your life into God's hands he will help you through all of the things you never thought you could ever do.
When I decided to turn my life around, and take the road to Sobriety, I had to do a lot of preparing, both mind and body. I knew I could not just slow down the drinking, because of my last experience, it didn't work. So the only other thing that I could do is to just go Cold Turkey.
I picked a Sober start date, and I stuck to it. It was hard to say goodbye to my so called second love, or as I always say my Demons. But, I did, and I will never look back at the past. I knew deep down inside that this addiction I have is destroying my family, my dreams and goals, and my Life.
So, I said to myself, how I am going to feel with my Alcohol Detox program that I'm about to start on my own? Will I be able to do this own my own? I answered both questions with a Positive Attitude, saying, Yes I Can and Will achieve this goal of getting Sobriety back into my life.
So, during my Detox of Alcohol, I needed to find things to do to keep my mind and my body busy. One of the first things I started to do was to start writing about my Addiction. Believe it or not, it has helped me so much to be able to express my thoughts and my feelings of my life with Alcohol.
As I continue to write many things pop into my mind. Some are good and then their are the ones that I am ashamed of. Those are, what I have put my family through all the years of drinking. I am not happy nor proud of it by far. I never realized what I was doing due the Alcohol.
One of my Goals is that, I hope that someone in the world will get a chance to read what I have written, and be able to maybe use some of the things I have learned to help them Achieve Sobriety in their lives.
The Detox program that I did on my own, will unfortunately not help someone completely, that really has a far worse addiction then I. But, if they really want to Achieve their Sobriety, then I strongly suggest by first Getting that Positive Attitude going in your life. Without that first you are fighting a losing battle.
Once you Surrender to your Addiction, and grab a hold of that Positive energy you will succeed. You will also have to agree to yourself that you will never be able to pick up a drink again ever in your life. We all know what could happen if you do so, and no one wants a Relapse after working so hard to Achieve their Sobriety.
With a lot of prayers, and to put your life into God's hands he will help you through all of the things you never thought you could ever do.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Alcohol Tolerance - It Can Sneak Up On You Quick
Remember the old days, or for some of us now, how we felt after our first Alcoholic drink? We felt like we where floating on a cloud. But, our body was not used to that strange liquid in our system.
I remember my first. A friend of mine stole a beer from his parents refrigerator and we shared that one beer. What we did was to use a straw to drink out of, only because someone said it would give you a quick buzz. After we finished the beer we then ran around to get the alcohol moving faster into our body. Sounds funny right, but it did work, at least we thought so.
So, we did our experiment and we where satisfied with the results. That was the end of our drinking day at a young age, So we thought.
As we get older and the times of our lives get tougher, we tend to lean on different things to get our stress out. Some may turn to Drugs and some my turn to Alcohol. Either way, both will do the same harm to us over time.
When we do start to abuse our bodies with these things, we start off lightly and slowly, because we don't know how it will affect us in the beginning. Some of us have gotten very sick, including myself, when we have drank to much, and didn't realize just how fast the alcohol would sneak up on us. So, we say to ourselves, that's it for me, no more drinking for me.
After a day or so, we say, well I feel a lot better now, so I guess I'll have a drink or so. We get to the number of that drink that put us under a day ago, and realized nothing has happened. No throwing up, No feeling sick. So, we then continue to drink until we get to that sick point again, and then call it quits for the night.
This goes on and on as our Alcohol Tolerance gets higher and higher. As for me, this has happened as I'm sure million of other people feel the same.
As our Tolerance builds higher, we can hang in their with the best of the drinkers. For myself, nothing to be proud of for sure.
So, for me, to finally be Sober again everyday of my life is a Blessing. But, if we never started to use Drugs or Alcohol in the first place, then, the word Addiction would never be in our vocabulary.
I remember my first. A friend of mine stole a beer from his parents refrigerator and we shared that one beer. What we did was to use a straw to drink out of, only because someone said it would give you a quick buzz. After we finished the beer we then ran around to get the alcohol moving faster into our body. Sounds funny right, but it did work, at least we thought so.
So, we did our experiment and we where satisfied with the results. That was the end of our drinking day at a young age, So we thought.
As we get older and the times of our lives get tougher, we tend to lean on different things to get our stress out. Some may turn to Drugs and some my turn to Alcohol. Either way, both will do the same harm to us over time.
When we do start to abuse our bodies with these things, we start off lightly and slowly, because we don't know how it will affect us in the beginning. Some of us have gotten very sick, including myself, when we have drank to much, and didn't realize just how fast the alcohol would sneak up on us. So, we say to ourselves, that's it for me, no more drinking for me.
After a day or so, we say, well I feel a lot better now, so I guess I'll have a drink or so. We get to the number of that drink that put us under a day ago, and realized nothing has happened. No throwing up, No feeling sick. So, we then continue to drink until we get to that sick point again, and then call it quits for the night.
This goes on and on as our Alcohol Tolerance gets higher and higher. As for me, this has happened as I'm sure million of other people feel the same.
As our Tolerance builds higher, we can hang in their with the best of the drinkers. For myself, nothing to be proud of for sure.
So, for me, to finally be Sober again everyday of my life is a Blessing. But, if we never started to use Drugs or Alcohol in the first place, then, the word Addiction would never be in our vocabulary.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Giving Up Alcohol
There are so many different things in the world that people love to do. We all have different hobbies and interest, which makes us all different from one another. Then there are some that really have no interest in anything in their lives, because they have been caught up in an Addiction of some sort. Nothing is really important to them except the Alcohol or Drugs they are addicted to.
Some may depend on Drugs and then some with an Alcohol Addiction. These folks are missing out on so much that life has to offer. If only they can just start a new life by "Giving Up Alcohol." Easier said than done, but it can be done with the right attitude in mind.
When I decided to change my life for the good, I thought about what it might feel like to never have any harmful substances in my body again. I was hesitant to give up the alcohol do to that feeling I might have with the absence of the almighty drink.
Well, I then said what in the world would I do with no drinking involved in my life? How will I survive? This is my crutch that I lean on when life is not going on a smooth pace.
Finally I said this is enough of the playing games, and now it's time to do some real bussiness with my demons that lurk in me. It's time to tell them who is the real boss here.
As I have learned over time, and still today, I made a pack with myself to always keep a Positive Attitude in everything I do from this time forward. If you start out with that frame of mind, it will help you so much to achieve not only Sobriety, but anything you do in life. It has helped me achieve many things in my life in only a short period of time.
Your mind is a powerful and beautiful thing. You can train it to go in any direction you wish. Some unfortunately choose the wrong direction and get caught up with the Addiction.
In order for you succeed to your Road of Recovery you will have to stand strong and agree that if you are going to make this change, you have to promise yourself, NOT anyone else that you are willing to NEVER pick up a drink again. Don't let your addiction run your life, and ruin the love and friendship of families and friends. Keep thinking what you will lose if you do not change your ways. Then, think of what you will gain continuing with your addiction.
You have to do this for YOU! If you don't have respect for yourself and just do not care about yourself, then it will be a little tough to even have any feelings or care about anyone else. Even though everyone will be on your side and support you in whatever you decide, this is your life, so give yourself that second chance you deserve-SOBRIETY!
When you find Sobriety, hold you head high, be proud of your accomplishments, smile, and say to yourself,
I DID IT! I have conquered my Addiction, and now I can Live a Clean Life again.
Stay Positive, Stay Sober, Go For It, you will not regret it!
Some may depend on Drugs and then some with an Alcohol Addiction. These folks are missing out on so much that life has to offer. If only they can just start a new life by "Giving Up Alcohol." Easier said than done, but it can be done with the right attitude in mind.
When I decided to change my life for the good, I thought about what it might feel like to never have any harmful substances in my body again. I was hesitant to give up the alcohol do to that feeling I might have with the absence of the almighty drink.
Well, I then said what in the world would I do with no drinking involved in my life? How will I survive? This is my crutch that I lean on when life is not going on a smooth pace.
Finally I said this is enough of the playing games, and now it's time to do some real bussiness with my demons that lurk in me. It's time to tell them who is the real boss here.
As I have learned over time, and still today, I made a pack with myself to always keep a Positive Attitude in everything I do from this time forward. If you start out with that frame of mind, it will help you so much to achieve not only Sobriety, but anything you do in life. It has helped me achieve many things in my life in only a short period of time.
Your mind is a powerful and beautiful thing. You can train it to go in any direction you wish. Some unfortunately choose the wrong direction and get caught up with the Addiction.
In order for you succeed to your Road of Recovery you will have to stand strong and agree that if you are going to make this change, you have to promise yourself, NOT anyone else that you are willing to NEVER pick up a drink again. Don't let your addiction run your life, and ruin the love and friendship of families and friends. Keep thinking what you will lose if you do not change your ways. Then, think of what you will gain continuing with your addiction.
You have to do this for YOU! If you don't have respect for yourself and just do not care about yourself, then it will be a little tough to even have any feelings or care about anyone else. Even though everyone will be on your side and support you in whatever you decide, this is your life, so give yourself that second chance you deserve-SOBRIETY!
When you find Sobriety, hold you head high, be proud of your accomplishments, smile, and say to yourself,
I DID IT! I have conquered my Addiction, and now I can Live a Clean Life again.
Stay Positive, Stay Sober, Go For It, you will not regret it!
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Quit Drinking Alcohol-Start A New Life
This is for those, including myself, that have or had a addiction to alcohol. There are many people in all walks of life struggling with an Alcohol Addiction and can not seem to control or even stop their addiction. I for one, loved the beer and it showed by my appearance, that went down hill overtime.
When you look into the mirror, and say to yourself, "who are you?" Your not the person I knew my whole life. That is the time to really start to make some decisions of what you want in your life. This is just one thing that I did everyday, and with each day that passed, what I saw looked worse each time. So, I said to myself, well it's time now for the biggest change in my life. I have seen enough and have done enough, now it's time to try your very hardest to Achieve Sobriety.
As they always say, pictures and mirrors don't lie. If you want a true picture of yourself just take a look in a mirror or a photo from years ago. Granted, we all age over our life time but, why try to rush the aging with some avoidable addictions. I was kind of embarrassed and self conscious of my appearance and how I have changed over time.
So, what we have to do, and what I did, was to face the fact that we need to admit to ourselves that we have a addiction, and it's time to Quit Drinking Alcohol and start a new life.
Now, we have first admitted that we have an alcohol addiction. Secondly, we have to agree to ourselves that we want to make this One Way Trip to Sobriety, then we have to start by having a Positive Attitude from now on in. These Positive thoughts will not only help us to Sobriety but will also help us in our everyday lives.
Another thing that we have to do when heading on the road to Recovery, is that we have to say to ourselves that we will not ever be able to tilt the bottle up again. If you can handle that, and agree to yourself that you won't let those demons take over your life ever again, then you are on the right track to a new life. Once you can agree to that, you should be proud of yourself, as I was when I made that promise to myself.
Anyone can achieve anything in life, provided that you have a Positive Attitude, Inner strength, and the Willingness to reach out for help if needed. Also, think of all those dreams that you can achieve when you are Sober. These ideas will help give you the drive to get to your destination in life.
When I decided to go Sober, I thought what is my future going to be if I stay on this path of destruction?
What is my future, if I decided to change my life?
The answer was this... MY DESTINY IN LIFE= SOBRIETY
When you look into the mirror, and say to yourself, "who are you?" Your not the person I knew my whole life. That is the time to really start to make some decisions of what you want in your life. This is just one thing that I did everyday, and with each day that passed, what I saw looked worse each time. So, I said to myself, well it's time now for the biggest change in my life. I have seen enough and have done enough, now it's time to try your very hardest to Achieve Sobriety.
As they always say, pictures and mirrors don't lie. If you want a true picture of yourself just take a look in a mirror or a photo from years ago. Granted, we all age over our life time but, why try to rush the aging with some avoidable addictions. I was kind of embarrassed and self conscious of my appearance and how I have changed over time.
So, what we have to do, and what I did, was to face the fact that we need to admit to ourselves that we have a addiction, and it's time to Quit Drinking Alcohol and start a new life.
Now, we have first admitted that we have an alcohol addiction. Secondly, we have to agree to ourselves that we want to make this One Way Trip to Sobriety, then we have to start by having a Positive Attitude from now on in. These Positive thoughts will not only help us to Sobriety but will also help us in our everyday lives.
Another thing that we have to do when heading on the road to Recovery, is that we have to say to ourselves that we will not ever be able to tilt the bottle up again. If you can handle that, and agree to yourself that you won't let those demons take over your life ever again, then you are on the right track to a new life. Once you can agree to that, you should be proud of yourself, as I was when I made that promise to myself.
Anyone can achieve anything in life, provided that you have a Positive Attitude, Inner strength, and the Willingness to reach out for help if needed. Also, think of all those dreams that you can achieve when you are Sober. These ideas will help give you the drive to get to your destination in life.
When I decided to go Sober, I thought what is my future going to be if I stay on this path of destruction?
What is my future, if I decided to change my life?
The answer was this... MY DESTINY IN LIFE= SOBRIETY
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Living With An Alcoholic
So many marriages, families, and friends are ruined or even destroyed when there is an Alcohol Addicted person involved. I can relate, do to the fact, that I was one that basically contributed to almost ruining everything I had, including my life.
It took me some time until I finally realized that something is going to blow up real soon. Whether it would be myself or my family or friends. I saw it coming over the years but, I didn't pay much attention to it.
Spouses, families, and friends tend be afraid of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the addict. They have to basically walk on egg shells while around the addict due to the fact they are worried that the addict might just blow up or even get violent in some cases. This is certainly not a way to live for the innocent ones involved.
Also, lets say that your spouse wanted to take a nice ride out in the country or down the shore for example, but, we the addict have already started our day on the drinking binge. So, we are about worthless to them and we now have spoiled their day and evening. Not very fair is it?
Either one way or another it is hard Living With An Alcoholic. My wife can testify to that, as I'm sure many spouses and families of an Alcoholic can say the same.
The alcoholic does not realize what they are doing, not only to themselves, but all of their loved ones that want them to get help. I know, because when I was into the drinking thing, I thought nothing about it and basically did not care about anyone elses thoughts either. But, I must say deep down inside of me, I really did care, but the alcohol demons in me decided to think for me, and control my thoughts, while being under their influence.
When I decided to become Sober, one of the first things that convinced me was, "do I want those rotten Demons inside me to control and love me, or, do I want my loving wife, family and friends to love and care for me?" Well, we all know what the best choice is. Those so called demons I call them only care about one thing, and that is to destroy you and everything around you.
If you really want to change your life for the better, then start by looking at what you are doing to the people that you care and love so much, and just take a good look at where your life is headed if you keep up with your addiction. These couple of things might help you to make that decision to find Sobriety in your life. It certainly did for me.
Always remember that without family and freinds on our side, we will be very lonely drunks in our future. As time goes by the people that loved us will start to stray further and further away. And we will only have one thing left, which is our Addiction.
Start by always thinking Positive in everything you do, and with family and friends on your side you will have a head start to your new Sober life.. Go for it, you will never be sorry you did!
It took me some time until I finally realized that something is going to blow up real soon. Whether it would be myself or my family or friends. I saw it coming over the years but, I didn't pay much attention to it.
Spouses, families, and friends tend be afraid of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the addict. They have to basically walk on egg shells while around the addict due to the fact they are worried that the addict might just blow up or even get violent in some cases. This is certainly not a way to live for the innocent ones involved.
Also, lets say that your spouse wanted to take a nice ride out in the country or down the shore for example, but, we the addict have already started our day on the drinking binge. So, we are about worthless to them and we now have spoiled their day and evening. Not very fair is it?
Either one way or another it is hard Living With An Alcoholic. My wife can testify to that, as I'm sure many spouses and families of an Alcoholic can say the same.
The alcoholic does not realize what they are doing, not only to themselves, but all of their loved ones that want them to get help. I know, because when I was into the drinking thing, I thought nothing about it and basically did not care about anyone elses thoughts either. But, I must say deep down inside of me, I really did care, but the alcohol demons in me decided to think for me, and control my thoughts, while being under their influence.
When I decided to become Sober, one of the first things that convinced me was, "do I want those rotten Demons inside me to control and love me, or, do I want my loving wife, family and friends to love and care for me?" Well, we all know what the best choice is. Those so called demons I call them only care about one thing, and that is to destroy you and everything around you.
If you really want to change your life for the better, then start by looking at what you are doing to the people that you care and love so much, and just take a good look at where your life is headed if you keep up with your addiction. These couple of things might help you to make that decision to find Sobriety in your life. It certainly did for me.
Always remember that without family and freinds on our side, we will be very lonely drunks in our future. As time goes by the people that loved us will start to stray further and further away. And we will only have one thing left, which is our Addiction.
Start by always thinking Positive in everything you do, and with family and friends on your side you will have a head start to your new Sober life.. Go for it, you will never be sorry you did!
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