Man verses addiction has been around for hundreds and even thousands of years and will remain in our lives for thousands of years more and till the end of time. There is nothing we can do to make it ever go away except to stand up to the addiction and surrender to the demons that can and will ruin your life. These addictions will cause health problems and death if action is not taken promptly.
Many people with an addiction have been overcome by it and many have lost lives because of their addiction, but then there are those that have beat their addiction and became clean and sober once again and hopefully forever. An addiction is nothing to laugh about and must be taken serious or people will lose everything they had worked so hard to get throughout their life, including, spouses, homes, jobs, families and friends as well.
Wouldn't it be nice to cure all addictions with a wave of a wand? We all know that is not possible, although we, the sober ones can try our hardest to help those that are having a tough time in life with their addictions and offer as much help as we can through writing our own experiences with drinking alcohol or using drugs via the Internet, ebooks and just word of mouth to let every addicted person in the world know that there is always hope and to never give up trying to have sobriety be a part of your life again.
So in short, addictions to whatever it may be will be in our society and in our world forever, so the best thing we can do is to help those in need of help and make them understand that sobriety is waiting for them. Addictions will never go away, but all of us that are sober or have recently got sober have to team together and help all those that have the same problems or addiction as what we have beaten. Let them know they are not alone and there is help waiting for them. All they must do is to ask for it and we will be there with open arms to help them get and stay sober.
Monday, January 2, 2012
Sunday, December 25, 2011
Is There A Secret To Long Term Sobriety
Many alcoholics that want to get sober ask the question, "is there a secret to long term sobriety?" My answer to them from my own experience with drinking alcohol is if you want sobriety to be back into your life and have admitted you are an alcoholic and need help, then you have a great chance of long term sobriety because you are taking a huge step in the right direction.
So many people that quit drinking alcohol do well in the very beginning until something upsets them and they can't handle it and revert back to the bottle thinking drinking may fix what ever problem that has arises. They have done so well in the beginning, but not well enough to stay sober.
There will always be things in our lives that will upset us and things that you think will never be fixed or resolved,, but you can't let those things make you go back to drinking. You need to stay strong and be firm to your promise to yourself to stay sober no matter what life throws at you. You need to have a positive attitude and continue to tell yourself nothing in the world will ever make me go back to my old ways of being an alcoholic.
Drinking alcohol will never fix anything in life. It will only make matters worse in the end. I always thought by me drinking alcohol any problem I might of had I could figure it out because I always felt that I had great ideas while being drunk and all of those ideas made perfect sense, but that was the booze thinking for me and not my sober mind.
Alcohol does exactly what it is supposed to do, and that is to mess you up and get you drunk. It makes you think you are indestructible and most people think they think much clearer and make more sense to them self while being intoxicated. I'll tell you what, I thought of all those those things while I was drinking and when the next day came and I sobered up, what I thought was a great idea turned out to be the worst idea when thinking about it sober.
So what is the secret of getting sober and staying sober?
Through my experience from drinking to getting and staying sober is all in your mind. Your mind is a powerful tool and you can train it be be negative or you can train it to be nothing but positive and that's were positivity is needed to stay sober.
By thinking positive thoughts will help you to stay sober. It helps by continuing to tell yourself that you can and will beat this addiction you have. Positivity helps you think of all the wonderful things life has to offer being sober and up beat. It helps you to be happy.
Can you imagine walking around thinking negative saying to yourself, "I will never be able to beat this alcohol addiction I have. Thinking this way and being negative, you can rest assure that you will remain addicted to something that in the long run will kill you one way or another.
Find out the secret within yourself to help you with long term sobriety. The secret lies within you and only you can find out what will help you remain clean and sober for the rest of your life. Always stay and think positive. I truly believe that by me staying positive and telling myself I will have long term sobriety no matter what it takes help me to achieve my sobriety.
Remember, one step at a time and one day at a time and before you know it, weeks, months and then years will have passed and you will look back being so proud that you have achieved long term sobriety and did it on your own.
So many people that quit drinking alcohol do well in the very beginning until something upsets them and they can't handle it and revert back to the bottle thinking drinking may fix what ever problem that has arises. They have done so well in the beginning, but not well enough to stay sober.
There will always be things in our lives that will upset us and things that you think will never be fixed or resolved,, but you can't let those things make you go back to drinking. You need to stay strong and be firm to your promise to yourself to stay sober no matter what life throws at you. You need to have a positive attitude and continue to tell yourself nothing in the world will ever make me go back to my old ways of being an alcoholic.
Drinking alcohol will never fix anything in life. It will only make matters worse in the end. I always thought by me drinking alcohol any problem I might of had I could figure it out because I always felt that I had great ideas while being drunk and all of those ideas made perfect sense, but that was the booze thinking for me and not my sober mind.
Alcohol does exactly what it is supposed to do, and that is to mess you up and get you drunk. It makes you think you are indestructible and most people think they think much clearer and make more sense to them self while being intoxicated. I'll tell you what, I thought of all those those things while I was drinking and when the next day came and I sobered up, what I thought was a great idea turned out to be the worst idea when thinking about it sober.
So what is the secret of getting sober and staying sober?
Through my experience from drinking to getting and staying sober is all in your mind. Your mind is a powerful tool and you can train it be be negative or you can train it to be nothing but positive and that's were positivity is needed to stay sober.
By thinking positive thoughts will help you to stay sober. It helps by continuing to tell yourself that you can and will beat this addiction you have. Positivity helps you think of all the wonderful things life has to offer being sober and up beat. It helps you to be happy.
Can you imagine walking around thinking negative saying to yourself, "I will never be able to beat this alcohol addiction I have. Thinking this way and being negative, you can rest assure that you will remain addicted to something that in the long run will kill you one way or another.
Find out the secret within yourself to help you with long term sobriety. The secret lies within you and only you can find out what will help you remain clean and sober for the rest of your life. Always stay and think positive. I truly believe that by me staying positive and telling myself I will have long term sobriety no matter what it takes help me to achieve my sobriety.
Remember, one step at a time and one day at a time and before you know it, weeks, months and then years will have passed and you will look back being so proud that you have achieved long term sobriety and did it on your own.
Friday, December 23, 2011
Stuggling Everyday To Stay Sober
For all those that has had an addiction to alcohol and now in recovery find themselves struggling everyday to stay sober and deep in back of their minds wonder if they will relapse during the upcoming Holiday Season.
How strong are you? Do you think you are stronger than the demons inside you that are just
waiting for you to give in and start drinking alcohol again? The demons lay back waiting for you to break, but you have to smarter and stronger than them. As for myself, they have a long long wait to see another drop of alcohol pass my lips.
Sure every alcoholic that has chose to get clean and sober struggles to stay clean and sober and I think that it pretty much the norm, at least it is for me. What the heck, when you lived with alcohol in your life everyday for years the urge and temptation does come about now and then, but you just have to let that urge pass and not break and drink, not even one drop or else we all know what happens next. Yep, right back where we began at day one again trying to get sober again.
Don't let anything or anyone get in your way of your sobriety and continue telling yourself you will remain sober no matter what life throws at you.
Life seems like a struggle not only with addictions, but just to live each and everyday and to live it healthy, sober and manage your everyday lives to the fullest, but no one said life is easy right?
You need to make the best of each day and whatever you do, you need to do it the best you can and to your fullest expectations. Don't cut yourself short, and don't get down on yourself because you might have not accomplished something you thought would of work out well. If by any chance you do relapse, don't be too hard on yourself, but be stern enough to start all over again and get back up and try again.
Many of us do relapse for one reason or another,but you need to try again and if need be, again until you get it right and stay sober. Some of us get sobriety on the first try, but those that are having a tough time, never give up on yourself. Work as hard as you can to achieve your sobriety and at the end of the day and you are clean and sober you will look back at your journey and the hard work you put forth to get sober, you will be one proud person.
Happy Sober Holidays Everyone!!!
How strong are you? Do you think you are stronger than the demons inside you that are just
waiting for you to give in and start drinking alcohol again? The demons lay back waiting for you to break, but you have to smarter and stronger than them. As for myself, they have a long long wait to see another drop of alcohol pass my lips.
Sure every alcoholic that has chose to get clean and sober struggles to stay clean and sober and I think that it pretty much the norm, at least it is for me. What the heck, when you lived with alcohol in your life everyday for years the urge and temptation does come about now and then, but you just have to let that urge pass and not break and drink, not even one drop or else we all know what happens next. Yep, right back where we began at day one again trying to get sober again.
Don't let anything or anyone get in your way of your sobriety and continue telling yourself you will remain sober no matter what life throws at you.
Life seems like a struggle not only with addictions, but just to live each and everyday and to live it healthy, sober and manage your everyday lives to the fullest, but no one said life is easy right?
You need to make the best of each day and whatever you do, you need to do it the best you can and to your fullest expectations. Don't cut yourself short, and don't get down on yourself because you might have not accomplished something you thought would of work out well. If by any chance you do relapse, don't be too hard on yourself, but be stern enough to start all over again and get back up and try again.
Many of us do relapse for one reason or another,but you need to try again and if need be, again until you get it right and stay sober. Some of us get sobriety on the first try, but those that are having a tough time, never give up on yourself. Work as hard as you can to achieve your sobriety and at the end of the day and you are clean and sober you will look back at your journey and the hard work you put forth to get sober, you will be one proud person.
Happy Sober Holidays Everyone!!!
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Ways To Help You Stay Sober During The Holidays
The Holiday season is upon us and with the giving of gifts, having Christmas and New Years parties become somewhat difficult for those that are in recovery from their past addictions.
There are many ways to help you stay sober during the Holidays such as your thinking and your mental attitude.
In the beginning of your recovery you are really fighting to stay sober. Your body that has been so used to alcohol in your system and then to have nothing alcoholic is a bit of a shock to your your system. You go to that Holiday party and watch as those that are drinking and thinking they are having a wonderful time, and I am sure they are, at that moment.
You mouth starts to water and wishing you can have just one beer, a glass of wine or a nice mixed drink. The problem with that is you have made a pack with yourself, (I hope) to never pick up a alcoholic drink again. This pack or promise to yourself to never drink again should have been made when you finally surrendered to your addiction.
You took the right steps in getting clean and sober, and now the huge job is to stay clean and sober. The Holiday seasons are full of temptations to the alcoholic. I know for myself when I quit drinking alcohol, the first few months were torture to me. I surrendered to my addiction in October of 2009 just two months before the Holiday party were to begin. I thought to myself, " how in the world will I ever be able to go to these holidays and parties and watch people drink while I remain sober?"
The way I handled those temptations to drink are as follows and I hope they will help you through this Holiday and many days and years to come, not just Holidays.
Don't drink and don't give in EVER!!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE AND ENJOY THIS SPECIAL TIME OF THE YEAR BEING CLEAN AND SOBER!!!
There are many ways to help you stay sober during the Holidays such as your thinking and your mental attitude.
In the beginning of your recovery you are really fighting to stay sober. Your body that has been so used to alcohol in your system and then to have nothing alcoholic is a bit of a shock to your your system. You go to that Holiday party and watch as those that are drinking and thinking they are having a wonderful time, and I am sure they are, at that moment.
You mouth starts to water and wishing you can have just one beer, a glass of wine or a nice mixed drink. The problem with that is you have made a pack with yourself, (I hope) to never pick up a alcoholic drink again. This pack or promise to yourself to never drink again should have been made when you finally surrendered to your addiction.
You took the right steps in getting clean and sober, and now the huge job is to stay clean and sober. The Holiday seasons are full of temptations to the alcoholic. I know for myself when I quit drinking alcohol, the first few months were torture to me. I surrendered to my addiction in October of 2009 just two months before the Holiday party were to begin. I thought to myself, " how in the world will I ever be able to go to these holidays and parties and watch people drink while I remain sober?"
The way I handled those temptations to drink are as follows and I hope they will help you through this Holiday and many days and years to come, not just Holidays.
- I began to prepare my mind and my feelings of what would happen to me if I were to break and relapse.
- I thought to myself if I were to drink at these Holiday parties what I would be ruining and all the hard work I did to get where I was at that moment and sober.
- I said to myself that every minute I remain sober at these parties I will be closer to leaving the the temptation to drink.
- I stay strong and determined not to drink and keeping that promise to myself that I made some two years ago.
- I mad sure I had enough coffee to hold in my hand as I sipped it slowly as I was having conversations with all that were drinking alcohol.
- Before I knew it the end of the night was near and I remained clean and sober.
- Ever since those couple of parties I went to it has become so much easier to be around those that drink alcohol and my urge to drink has passed and it doesn't bother me one bit now to go to parties and watch other drink their brains out. In fact, I watch them now and just how they change with each drink that was drank. I often wonder to myself, "was that me two years ago?" If so, I was a mess as those that are pounding them down and thinking they are having a blast.
- I go home sober and awake with a clear head with no hangovers. I wonder how they felt after their night out drinking? I bet not like me!
- I continue to tell myself just how proud of I am of my own self and I should be, just as every person that had an addiction and surrendered to it and now living a life of sobriety.
Don't drink and don't give in EVER!!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE AND ENJOY THIS SPECIAL TIME OF THE YEAR BEING CLEAN AND SOBER!!!
Monday, December 19, 2011
Why Is It So Hard To Stop Drinking Alcohol
Oh yes, drinking alcohol is what most people do at parties, picnics, family functions and so many other things that always seem to have alcohol. The question is, "why is it so hard to stop drinking alcohol?"
It seems like everything we do in life always involves alcohol is some way. Why do you think this is I might ask? Can't we have a fun time without involving alcohol?
Well, back in my drinking days and I'm sure many alcoholics will agree, is that we never wanted to attend any kind of function if alcohol wasn't being served. Thinking back, I now know this was a sickness and an addiction to alcohol. How many people do you know that live each day for their addiction and when it comes to doing something without alcohol they are not interested in going or doing anything. The absence of alcohol is heartbreaking to the alcoholic. They think to them self, "who am I going to cope with this day without my crutch?" Will I have any fun being sober?
I used to make fun of people that didn't drink and I thought they are missing out on some fun times. Man was I ever wrong with that theory. I have found out over the last two years that I have had more fun being clean and sober than the best drunk I ever had.
To stop drinking alcohol is harder than most people think, especially those who have no addiction and can have a few drinks and call it quits for the night, or those that don't drink alcohol at all.
REASONS WHY IT IS SO HARD TO STOP DRINKING ALCOHOL
Try not to make this recovery process harder than it is. Believe in yourself and continue to tell yourself that you can a will beat your addiction to alcohol and will never let anything or anyone stand in your way of your sobriety.
It seems like everything we do in life always involves alcohol is some way. Why do you think this is I might ask? Can't we have a fun time without involving alcohol?
Well, back in my drinking days and I'm sure many alcoholics will agree, is that we never wanted to attend any kind of function if alcohol wasn't being served. Thinking back, I now know this was a sickness and an addiction to alcohol. How many people do you know that live each day for their addiction and when it comes to doing something without alcohol they are not interested in going or doing anything. The absence of alcohol is heartbreaking to the alcoholic. They think to them self, "who am I going to cope with this day without my crutch?" Will I have any fun being sober?
I used to make fun of people that didn't drink and I thought they are missing out on some fun times. Man was I ever wrong with that theory. I have found out over the last two years that I have had more fun being clean and sober than the best drunk I ever had.
To stop drinking alcohol is harder than most people think, especially those who have no addiction and can have a few drinks and call it quits for the night, or those that don't drink alcohol at all.
REASONS WHY IT IS SO HARD TO STOP DRINKING ALCOHOL
- Trying to stay sober,but still hanging around with your old drinking buddies.
- You may think you can't get along in this world without your crutch.
- You probably forgot what it feels like to be sober and so used to being drunk and that's your world you know best.
- You have a fear of being sober.
- You may think you will miss out on so great times with family and friends.
- Your worried of how you will feel with the absence of alcohol in your body.
- You may wonder what your friends will think of you being clean and sober and if they will still be your friends because you stopped drinking alcohol.
Try not to make this recovery process harder than it is. Believe in yourself and continue to tell yourself that you can a will beat your addiction to alcohol and will never let anything or anyone stand in your way of your sobriety.
Saturday, December 17, 2011
What Steps Are Needed To Getting Clean And Sober
There are so many people that have an addiction to alcohol in our world today. Sad to say, but so very true. You have no idea just how many people suffer from alcoholism and want a better life , but have no idea how to go about getting that life of sobriety.
They are caught up in the world of addiction with nowhere to turn, or should I say, they choose not to change for the fear of how their life would be without their crutch.
What steps are needed to getting clean and sober?
Step #1 - First and most important, the alcoholic needs to want to be clean and sober and not get sober because someone is forcing it on them. They have to want sobriety so bad that they are willing to do anything to get their life back on track and get sober.
Step #2 - They have to get out of the denial they have been living in and finally admit to them self that they are indeed an alcoholic and need help to get clean and sober. I think once the alcoholic admits there is a huge problem with them and their family life, in which is totally effected by the actions of the addicted person, things will begin to make more sense of why they should try their hardest to surrender to their addiction to alcohol.
Step #3- They have to look at their life and how they are living it in comparison to the way they lived before getting addicted to this horrible addiction we call alcoholism. They must see for themselves that they are destroying their bodies and their family as well.
Step#4 - They need to visualize how their life can be living it sober. Once they can see that their future can be brighter they may then just surrender to their addiction to alcohol. All they have to do is to look around them and see for them self who is avoiding them. People that may have been close friends and falling distant because of the poor life style the alcoholic has could be the reason they steer away and avoid being around the alcoholic. The alcoholic can surely see that something is missing in their life and without changing their life they might just lose everything they have over time including their own life. Addictions are nothing to mess with. It is like holding a loaded gun and playing Russian Roulette. Sooner or later you will pull the trigger and the one single bullet in the chamber will be fired.
Step#5- The alcoholic needs to take a good hard look at their spouse and children a see just how his/her addiction is also effecting them and ruining their lives as well. You really have to be blind not to see that your bad habits effect many people, not only yourself.
Step #6- The alcoholic needs to change his/her outlook in life and stop feeling sorry for them self and start doing something about it and then take massive action to get sober if they truly want to be free of their addiction once and for all. Sobriety is out there for all. It will not come to you. You need to go after it and shut down the demons inside of you that run and ruin all those addicted in time. The only way to beat you addiction is to SURRENDER to it.
Step#7- Tell yourself and promise yourself that you will never pick up another alcoholic drink the rest of your life. If you can hold true to this promise to yourself then you are serious about getting clean and sober. So now, all you have to do is to JUST DO IT and don't look back. Run as fast as you can from your addiction. Never be weak and let your demons back into your life no matter what happens, whether it be bad or good. Don't back down or give in because something may have happened to upset you and feel as if you need to drink to fix the problem because believe me it won't work.
Step#8- Keep a Positive Attitude towards get sober. Believe in yourself. Tell yourself no matter what happens in your life you WILL NOT relapse. Stay strong. Keep determined to stay clean and sober forever. Stay busy physically and mentally. Take up a hobby that you are interested in. Spend quality time with your family. If you feel uneasy at a party that is serving alcohol, don't go! Stay clear of all those that are still drinking alcohol and partying. ( These people just may try and shame you into drinking again, but don't give in.) Just walk away and say NO THANKS. You know those words, "MISERY LOVES COMPANY" Don't be the company. Be stronger than your addiction and with all this and the determination and desire to get and stay sober you should have no problem getting clean and sober. It's all in the mind and that mind you have can do miraculous things if you let it, so lets get sober and stay sober!!
They are caught up in the world of addiction with nowhere to turn, or should I say, they choose not to change for the fear of how their life would be without their crutch.
What steps are needed to getting clean and sober?
Step #1 - First and most important, the alcoholic needs to want to be clean and sober and not get sober because someone is forcing it on them. They have to want sobriety so bad that they are willing to do anything to get their life back on track and get sober.
Step #2 - They have to get out of the denial they have been living in and finally admit to them self that they are indeed an alcoholic and need help to get clean and sober. I think once the alcoholic admits there is a huge problem with them and their family life, in which is totally effected by the actions of the addicted person, things will begin to make more sense of why they should try their hardest to surrender to their addiction to alcohol.
Step #3- They have to look at their life and how they are living it in comparison to the way they lived before getting addicted to this horrible addiction we call alcoholism. They must see for themselves that they are destroying their bodies and their family as well.
Step#4 - They need to visualize how their life can be living it sober. Once they can see that their future can be brighter they may then just surrender to their addiction to alcohol. All they have to do is to look around them and see for them self who is avoiding them. People that may have been close friends and falling distant because of the poor life style the alcoholic has could be the reason they steer away and avoid being around the alcoholic. The alcoholic can surely see that something is missing in their life and without changing their life they might just lose everything they have over time including their own life. Addictions are nothing to mess with. It is like holding a loaded gun and playing Russian Roulette. Sooner or later you will pull the trigger and the one single bullet in the chamber will be fired.
Step#5- The alcoholic needs to take a good hard look at their spouse and children a see just how his/her addiction is also effecting them and ruining their lives as well. You really have to be blind not to see that your bad habits effect many people, not only yourself.
Step #6- The alcoholic needs to change his/her outlook in life and stop feeling sorry for them self and start doing something about it and then take massive action to get sober if they truly want to be free of their addiction once and for all. Sobriety is out there for all. It will not come to you. You need to go after it and shut down the demons inside of you that run and ruin all those addicted in time. The only way to beat you addiction is to SURRENDER to it.
Step#7- Tell yourself and promise yourself that you will never pick up another alcoholic drink the rest of your life. If you can hold true to this promise to yourself then you are serious about getting clean and sober. So now, all you have to do is to JUST DO IT and don't look back. Run as fast as you can from your addiction. Never be weak and let your demons back into your life no matter what happens, whether it be bad or good. Don't back down or give in because something may have happened to upset you and feel as if you need to drink to fix the problem because believe me it won't work.
Step#8- Keep a Positive Attitude towards get sober. Believe in yourself. Tell yourself no matter what happens in your life you WILL NOT relapse. Stay strong. Keep determined to stay clean and sober forever. Stay busy physically and mentally. Take up a hobby that you are interested in. Spend quality time with your family. If you feel uneasy at a party that is serving alcohol, don't go! Stay clear of all those that are still drinking alcohol and partying. ( These people just may try and shame you into drinking again, but don't give in.) Just walk away and say NO THANKS. You know those words, "MISERY LOVES COMPANY" Don't be the company. Be stronger than your addiction and with all this and the determination and desire to get and stay sober you should have no problem getting clean and sober. It's all in the mind and that mind you have can do miraculous things if you let it, so lets get sober and stay sober!!
A Positive Attitude Can Change Your Life
Many people in our society today are not very positive at all, and I truly believe that our economy and the people out of work is a huge part of it.
Do you know how a positive attitude can change your life? Lets think here. Say if you walked around everyday with a negative attitude. Do you really think things will go your way thinking in this manner? How can you expect things to go well in your life if you are not living with a Positive Attitude?
Positivity in any ones life can do wonders and really change so much in your everyday life. I can understand just how so many people are negative and for good reason, but you can't let things bring you down as hard as it may be. You need to continue to at least give it your best shot and start thinking in a Positive way and just maybe by doing so things will start to look up for you.
Your mind is a powerful tool, and you and I can change how we think and feel just be changing our outlook on life and getting out of the Negative world we live in.
You may say, "how in the world can I be happy and think positive when there are so many things against me?" The trick here is to try your hardest to make those things that are bringing you down and making you a negative person a reality, meaning, work hard to resolve the problem and change it into something positive. Figure out what you can do to make things better in your life.
If you are unemployed, then go everywhere and look for that job. Go on the Internet and search for employment. It may not be what you want at the present time, but something is better than nothing for the time being. At least you will have some income coming in until you land that job you really want. Sure it is hard out there and you may just have to take a job that you are really not fond of, but it is only temporary. Finding a job and having income will help you realize that there is hope and you will feel good about yourself that you are working.
You may have a sickness in your family, and I certainly can relate to that and it sure will make you a negative person because you feel helpless for the person that is ill, BUT never ever give up hope. Stay positive and keep thinking that your loved one will soon get better. Believe in our Lord because he does preform miracles, but you must stay positive and believe in him. The power of prayer is a strong thing, so if you don't pray then I would advise you start to do so and you will see just how the power of prayer works. Things will not always work out the way you would want them to, but being positive and believing will help tremendously.
So if you feel negative and down, just try your hardest to change your attitude and start thinking positive. By doing so you may be surprized just how thinking with a positive attiude can change your life. It did for me and I couldn't be happier.
Do you know how a positive attitude can change your life? Lets think here. Say if you walked around everyday with a negative attitude. Do you really think things will go your way thinking in this manner? How can you expect things to go well in your life if you are not living with a Positive Attitude?
Positivity in any ones life can do wonders and really change so much in your everyday life. I can understand just how so many people are negative and for good reason, but you can't let things bring you down as hard as it may be. You need to continue to at least give it your best shot and start thinking in a Positive way and just maybe by doing so things will start to look up for you.
Your mind is a powerful tool, and you and I can change how we think and feel just be changing our outlook on life and getting out of the Negative world we live in.
You may say, "how in the world can I be happy and think positive when there are so many things against me?" The trick here is to try your hardest to make those things that are bringing you down and making you a negative person a reality, meaning, work hard to resolve the problem and change it into something positive. Figure out what you can do to make things better in your life.
If you are unemployed, then go everywhere and look for that job. Go on the Internet and search for employment. It may not be what you want at the present time, but something is better than nothing for the time being. At least you will have some income coming in until you land that job you really want. Sure it is hard out there and you may just have to take a job that you are really not fond of, but it is only temporary. Finding a job and having income will help you realize that there is hope and you will feel good about yourself that you are working.
You may have a sickness in your family, and I certainly can relate to that and it sure will make you a negative person because you feel helpless for the person that is ill, BUT never ever give up hope. Stay positive and keep thinking that your loved one will soon get better. Believe in our Lord because he does preform miracles, but you must stay positive and believe in him. The power of prayer is a strong thing, so if you don't pray then I would advise you start to do so and you will see just how the power of prayer works. Things will not always work out the way you would want them to, but being positive and believing will help tremendously.
So if you feel negative and down, just try your hardest to change your attitude and start thinking positive. By doing so you may be surprized just how thinking with a positive attiude can change your life. It did for me and I couldn't be happier.
Friday, December 16, 2011
Understanding What An Alcoholic Goes Through Each Day
Do you think being an alcoholic is fun? None of us set out on a giving day and just decide to start destroying ourselves with alcohol.
Understanding what an alcoholic goes through each day is what I have to try and explain in my own words, and possibly speaking for all those that are addicted to alcohol as I was over two years ago.
Life isn't easy being an alcoholic. You can ask anyone that has or had any kind of addiction, whether it be drugs or alcohol. We fear not having alcohol in our system for any length of time. We constantly worry what people think about our addiction to the alcohol. We fear if we stop drinking, will something happen that will harm us such as the DTs, shakes, tremors and anything that would effect the body by the absence of alcohol, or should we continue on our path to self destruction to avoid any health problems as such. But, we know deep down we are doing wrong and sooner or later our addiction will catch up with us and it won't be a pretty thing for sure. We are planing our own death in a sense and really on our own terms. We know we are killing our self slow but sure, BUT it still isn't enough to make us stop drinking alcohol. Sad, but true.
We wait for the right moment until we can have that first of many drinks of the day. The minute we awake from our restless nights sleep, if we sleep at all, and if we do sleep, I would call it passed out instead, when we can open that can of beer or take that cap off our bottle and start the process all over again.
Many of us are great in hiding our addiction, so we think. We want in the worse way to live a normal life and not be drunk each and everyday, but the addiction and the demons inside us grabbed us for good. We are trapped in our own bodies and don't know how to get out. We suffer each day with our addiction and many times wonder where we will get the money to support our everyday addiction to alcohol.
When we go out on a drunken evening of fun and morning comes, we often wonder to our self if we said anything bad to anyone that would offend them or did we do anything that might of hurt someone the night before. We wonder these things because of being so drunk and not caring what we said or did until we sober up the next morning and try in the worse way to remember the evening before, but many of us just can't remember anything. So, we may ask some of the people we were with that evening and hope and pray they don't tell us anything bad that we may have done. Some of us are even afraid to ask that question for fear inside our self that we may have said or did something that wasn't right, but really didn't want to know the true answer, so we ask nothing. we figure if we did do or say anything someone would most likely say something to us right?
We wake up in the morning feeling like crap and swear we will never drink alcohol again, until a little bit later in the day when we get our senses together and start feeling somewhat back to normal, if that's what you call it. We wonder to our self, "should I have a drink or not after the night I had?" Of course, it doesn't take long for the alcoholic to make up his/her mind to drink or not. We take that first drink of the day in hopes it will help straighten us up and it does somewhat and guess what, we are right back in the same boat we were in hours before and drinking the day and night away. A constant cycle, day after day, week after week, month after month.
If you never had the experience of being addicted to alcohol, then you are one lucky person, and saying that, clean and sober people should not down those that have this addiction and in fact they should try to comfort them and help them realize that there is a better life out there being sober.
For anyone that hasn't experienced an addiction in their lives I would suggest watching the TV show on A&E called "Intervention" and you will see first hand what a person that has an addiction goes through each and everyday of their life and how the families suffer right along with the addicted person and how they, the families try there hardest to get their son, daughter, spouse, friend, etc. the help they need to get their lives back on track and surrender to their addiction.
I have heard so many people stating that, " this guy or gal is an alcoholic and is worth nothing in life." They are a total mess and a menace to society. If you could only walk in an alcoholics shoes for one day you will then realize that being an alcoholic is a horrible thing and anyone that is one can tell you that their life is for crap. They don't know how to get out of the addiction that has grown to love them. Their demons are very well settled in their bodies and it will take a lot to get rid of them once and for all.
Clean and sober people have to understand what the alcoholic is going through in order to feel their pain. As far as anyone that is addicted to alcohol, we the alcoholics certainly understand, and always remember your not alone.
If we all decide to quit drinking alcohol we will see that there is a real life out there to enjoy. So, let all of us that have this horrible addiction start to prepare for a life of sobriety. I did it, although it was tough, but not as bad as I thought it might be. I did it and so can you.
Get focused, get determined and get positive for the new life that you are about to start. Never let anyone or anything stand in your way of getting clean and sober. Be stronger than your addiction and get sober once and for all.
Understanding what an alcoholic goes through each day is what I have to try and explain in my own words, and possibly speaking for all those that are addicted to alcohol as I was over two years ago.
Life isn't easy being an alcoholic. You can ask anyone that has or had any kind of addiction, whether it be drugs or alcohol. We fear not having alcohol in our system for any length of time. We constantly worry what people think about our addiction to the alcohol. We fear if we stop drinking, will something happen that will harm us such as the DTs, shakes, tremors and anything that would effect the body by the absence of alcohol, or should we continue on our path to self destruction to avoid any health problems as such. But, we know deep down we are doing wrong and sooner or later our addiction will catch up with us and it won't be a pretty thing for sure. We are planing our own death in a sense and really on our own terms. We know we are killing our self slow but sure, BUT it still isn't enough to make us stop drinking alcohol. Sad, but true.
We wait for the right moment until we can have that first of many drinks of the day. The minute we awake from our restless nights sleep, if we sleep at all, and if we do sleep, I would call it passed out instead, when we can open that can of beer or take that cap off our bottle and start the process all over again.
Many of us are great in hiding our addiction, so we think. We want in the worse way to live a normal life and not be drunk each and everyday, but the addiction and the demons inside us grabbed us for good. We are trapped in our own bodies and don't know how to get out. We suffer each day with our addiction and many times wonder where we will get the money to support our everyday addiction to alcohol.
When we go out on a drunken evening of fun and morning comes, we often wonder to our self if we said anything bad to anyone that would offend them or did we do anything that might of hurt someone the night before. We wonder these things because of being so drunk and not caring what we said or did until we sober up the next morning and try in the worse way to remember the evening before, but many of us just can't remember anything. So, we may ask some of the people we were with that evening and hope and pray they don't tell us anything bad that we may have done. Some of us are even afraid to ask that question for fear inside our self that we may have said or did something that wasn't right, but really didn't want to know the true answer, so we ask nothing. we figure if we did do or say anything someone would most likely say something to us right?
We wake up in the morning feeling like crap and swear we will never drink alcohol again, until a little bit later in the day when we get our senses together and start feeling somewhat back to normal, if that's what you call it. We wonder to our self, "should I have a drink or not after the night I had?" Of course, it doesn't take long for the alcoholic to make up his/her mind to drink or not. We take that first drink of the day in hopes it will help straighten us up and it does somewhat and guess what, we are right back in the same boat we were in hours before and drinking the day and night away. A constant cycle, day after day, week after week, month after month.
If you never had the experience of being addicted to alcohol, then you are one lucky person, and saying that, clean and sober people should not down those that have this addiction and in fact they should try to comfort them and help them realize that there is a better life out there being sober.
For anyone that hasn't experienced an addiction in their lives I would suggest watching the TV show on A&E called "Intervention" and you will see first hand what a person that has an addiction goes through each and everyday of their life and how the families suffer right along with the addicted person and how they, the families try there hardest to get their son, daughter, spouse, friend, etc. the help they need to get their lives back on track and surrender to their addiction.
I have heard so many people stating that, " this guy or gal is an alcoholic and is worth nothing in life." They are a total mess and a menace to society. If you could only walk in an alcoholics shoes for one day you will then realize that being an alcoholic is a horrible thing and anyone that is one can tell you that their life is for crap. They don't know how to get out of the addiction that has grown to love them. Their demons are very well settled in their bodies and it will take a lot to get rid of them once and for all.
Clean and sober people have to understand what the alcoholic is going through in order to feel their pain. As far as anyone that is addicted to alcohol, we the alcoholics certainly understand, and always remember your not alone.
If we all decide to quit drinking alcohol we will see that there is a real life out there to enjoy. So, let all of us that have this horrible addiction start to prepare for a life of sobriety. I did it, although it was tough, but not as bad as I thought it might be. I did it and so can you.
Get focused, get determined and get positive for the new life that you are about to start. Never let anyone or anything stand in your way of getting clean and sober. Be stronger than your addiction and get sober once and for all.
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